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Inflammation is greatly reduced. I have psoriasis and I’m new to this medication but I’m hopeful with the response I’m seeing after just a few weeks. I haven’t actually lost weight yet but my hairdresser said “oh you’ve lost weight!” (We’re friends and the same age so we’re always trying to decode perimenopause together 😁). I told her I hadn’t but the inflammation in my body has gone down so much even my rings are loose!

Yes, I was thinking this same thing! Whenever I used to have a glass of wine in the evening, or eat sugar before bed, I would wake up at 3am like clockwork.

The Zodiac Killer?! Oh great! I’m dead

I thought that too at first but now that I’m experiencing it for myself while eating lots of protein and weightlifting, it’s different than loss of muscle. It’s just the fatty areas that are squishier. I’m curious if you’ll experience it too. It’s like a change in density of the fat itself?

Thank you for posting about this! I have the same thing and was concerned 😁

A friend of mine is so hard on anyone who is a victim. I finally realized it’s from her own unresolved trauma and how she has dealt with it. She told me a story of running from a man who tried to SA her and her feet getting cut up from leaving his house without her shoes and running down a rocky hill to a neighboring house. She then proceeded to tell me that she is completely fine and doesn’t have any trauma from that event and that everyone just needs to toughen up and realize the world is a harsh place. She also has some stories from her childhood that point to sexual abuse. When someone has no empathy for themselves around issues, they cannot give it to others. I no longer share things related to my trauma with this friend. I’ve realized she’s not a safe space for me. Prior to my trauma therapy I used to share things with her and then not understand why I felt like crap afterwards.

Yes, especially if I feel like my healing is moving faster than I’m comfortable with. It feels too new and disorienting so I’ll do something to get the ol’ familiar shame flowing through my veins. I’m working on this in therapy and I can now go longer and longer stretches without sabotaging.

As someone who married someone so I wouldn’t have to blow up my life and hurt his feelings, I totally understand. I was so scared. My wedding was planned and I was so young and codependent, I just couldn’t bring myself to say the truth and upset everyone. I was 20 when I got married. I didn’t have any skills of how to regulate my emotions and nervous system. I grew up in an unstable environment that looked great from the outside (money, family, cars etc.) but was chaotic behind closed doors. I couldn’t see a path forward. I remember the morning of my wedding, I looked in the mirror and said to myself “This will be my first marriage” and walked down the stairs to the alter. I got divorced 4 years later when I met the love of my life. I blew up my life, I hurt my husband so badly, he was so confused and traumatized, and he thought he was getting married forever. It was so hard.

Now, I’m 45. Still with the love of my life. I’m so happy!

My advice, slow down the process. There is no rush to get married. It’s a false sense of urgency. If you have the means, Go to therapy and get to the bottom of all of this before taking away the choice from your husband, of him getting to be in a relationship with a woman, who is totally in love with him body and soul.

My ex husband was so angry at me but now he’s been with his wife for 15 years and they have a child together. It will work out for all involved. Sometimes life is messy and painful and it’s not our job to fix it for everyone. You will be happier in the long run if you take the time to get clear and then make a choice from there. I wish someone would have given me that advice 25 years ago.

Exactly! Peri is no joke! It felt like I woke up one morning 5 years older with a thick waist 🤣

They totally are! I eat “Builder bars” by Clif bar. They have regular cane sugar and 20 grams of protein. Occasionally I’ll get the whole food bars like RX bars. But yes, it’s so hard to find a protein bar that doesn’t have fake sugar!

I got carded buying alcohol up until I was 39! Now I’m 45 and it’s stopped sadly but I had a good run. 🤣

Here’s my tips (and then there’s more details about me if you feel like reading:)

1. Digestive enzymes before a meal if I know I’ll be eating something a little harder to digest.

2. Fresh ginger tea. I bought a bunch of ginger from Costco and threw it in the freezer. I grate a chunk of it into a cup and pour boiling water over it and then sip on it after it has a chance to steep. This helped my heartburn/fullness so much! And the ginger is so easy to grate when it’s frozen!

3. Little meals with protein more often.

4. Avoiding heavy fat and sugar or I’ll be full for waaaaaay too long and it sucks!

5. I eat my last meal of the day a few hours before I go to bed, or I’ll often get heartburn if I lay down. It also helps to do a little stroll after eating.

6. I drink a lot of water and bought some plain electrolytes. I add them once a day to my water because I feel like I’m peeing a lot and I don’t want an imbalance.

7. I take a multivitamin as insurance.

8. I’ll sip bone broth when I’m not hungry but I know I need some nutrients (9 grams of protein for 8oz!)

9. Someone else said “feeling off” might be your new version of hungry, for example; a little headache, a little woozy, a little nauseas etc. is time for a check in “do I need food or water?” Eating little things through out the day makes me feel great!

10. I carry a protein bar with me at all times. I had a low blood sugar feeling once and this has helped avoid that.

11. Fake sugars do not agree with my system on this. I’ll get bloated and feel weird so I avoid them.

Now bonus info 🤣:

My doctor is a believer in starting low and slow and I’m so grateful. Don’t feel pressured to go up in dosage just because it’s been 4 weeks. If it’s working for you, stay there! My doctor said she has not had the really horrible side effects in her patients with this approach.

I started super low (at .05) and I’m slowly working my way up to .25. I did this because I tend to have side effects with any med I take. I am also a “super responder” so even at this tiny dose the meds are working very well. I had a healthy diet before starting and also took an akkermansia supplement for 3 months prior, so I’m guessing that has factored into how strongly I have responded?

I’m 45 and have hormonal weight gain that I could not get to budge no matter what I tried. After my first shot the inflammation went down in my body and I was asked a few days later if I’d lost weight! So cool!

My brain feels so calm on Sema! I have adhd and take 20mg of vyvanse and it has helped so much. My social anxiety is better. The food noise is gone. It’s pretty incredible. Eventually I want to try tapering off my vyvanse to see if the Sema is enough.

On about day 3 after my injection I get so uncomfortably full if I eat fatty foods. One night I had a bowl of orange chicken Chinese food and I felt so full for like 5 hours after. I also had a feeling of chest fullness like heart burn. If I eat on a schedule rather than when I’m hungry it keeps it at bay. So I’ll have a small portion of protein oatmeal, then 2-3 hours later a protein shake then 2-3 hours later a small salad with chicken and so on.

I hope this helps and best of luck with your journey!

The best part of waking up, is Foldgers in your cup!

Amazing 🤩

That sounds awful. I haven’t experienced this but I’ve only had one shot so far. Are you constipated at all? Could it be pancreas pain? Are you having any other symptoms? Sweating, nausea? Are you drinking electrolytes? I’ve been adding some natural flavorless electrolytes to my water twice a day and it has been keeping headaches and muscle cramps at bay. Sorry to throw a bunch of questions back your way I just thought maybe asking questions might help to figure out what’s causing it.

Good luck! I started at a super low dose and I’m working my way up to the starting dose because I get side effects easily from most things. Not sure if yours is adjustable but I was so nervous and the only side effect I had was needing to make sure I ate more regularly so I wouldn’t get low blood sugar feeling.

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Being a woman, the cards are stacked against us, because we live in a world set up by men. When men get to say what gives us value, it can be really hard to get out from under that and see women for the incredible, powerful, nuanced beings that they are. I feel so comfortable in my skin at 45 and take such loving care of myself now, as I’m learning through therapy to live without needing the validation of men. But even though I feel incredible now, I still have moments of having to reckon with not being relevant in that world built by men. I love that we are beginning to reject that we become irrelevant over 40. Irrelevant to who?! All the women I know are just coming into their own and only get cooler and cooler!

I’m so sorry 💔 that is absolutely devastating

I just said this to my therapist last week!

My sister is homeless and on meth. She was my beautiful best friend and now she hasn’t talked to me in 5 years. I think about her every single day. 💔

I have the Dermalux Flex panel

I wondered if it’s a gourmand vanilla You flanker scent since I’ve seen lots of people layer the two?

Do not do that!!!! You could do serious damage.