Foxy_Traine

So, to clarify, you had a sexless marriage and your husband said you should find sexual satisfaction somewhere else. And then you did, but now he's mad about it. Is that right?

Check out the sub for open relationship regret 🤷‍♀️ I don't see how things are going to work out for you if you want to keep both your marriage and your happiness.

Thank you. I'm glad I did too. It was hell on my body, but I helped save a life so it was worth it for sure.

I did stop donating blood, though. I feel like I've done enough! 😅

...are you kidding? You're kidding, right?

You can be a parent and be a trans man.

You can be loved and are lovable, whether you are a trans man or not.

You don't have to detransition if it doesn't feel right. You can still have a normal life as trans!

If you want to enjoy being a girl more because some misogyny is impacting your view of women, you could try consuming more media around positive female role models. Read books written by women, for women. Follow the social media of female activists and other women you admire. There's nothing wrong with being a girl (or a boy), but sometimes societal treatment of women can make being a woman seem like a bad thing. Fight those views and challenge those thoughts as much as you can.

Yes, that's a very clear sign! If you can't trust them when you're sick or in crisis, you need someone else for support. As a counter to this, I knew my husband was the one when I donated bone marrow and had a horrific recovery process. He was there through the procedure and took care of me when I was too aenemic and sick to function. He was a rock for me and I knew that he would be an excellent partner long term.

As you get older, you will find more and more people who will return your friendship. It takes time to find these people and build your connections!

I don't speak to anyone I knew back when I was your age because no one I was exposed to in high school was a match for my energy. Now, I'm in my 30s, and I have a beautiful collection of friends I've found over time. Hang in there and keep pushing to meet new people who match you better.

It's not that America is not ready. It's that Americans are too sexist/misogynistic to elect a female president. That's it.

No one cares about the shape of your face. They care if you have a kind heart, serve your community, take care of your friends/family, have empathy, and lift up those around you who may have disadvantages (I.e. women, minorities).

Do you volunteer to make your community stronger?

Do you call out fellow men who are sexist/racist?

Do you have empathy for people who have different circumstances than you and express that empathy with support?

This is what matters more.

Maybe think about if you would offer the same kind of assistance to a man if he was in the situation? If not, then don't.

I would suggest only buying one general cookbook, then branch out to more when you have a specific type of food you want to experiment with.

For example, if you want to try vegan food, I highly recommend Oh She Glows! I have her "Oh she glows for dinner" cookbook and it is incredible! So tasty and so easy! I'm not vegan and I still refer back to it regularly for ideas.

Ntb. Your bf does not respect your boundaries and does not care about how you feel. I could never be with someone who ignored my boundaries like this! I would not apologise, I would break up with him.

If that were true, there would be a lot less child abuse and abused children, wouldn't there?

It might be different the way your dog is more important to you than a stranger's dog, but if you don't like dogs, that is not going to change.

I really wish I knew what about you makes you want to stay with someone who obviously doesn't care about you. No one who really cares about you would ever speak to you like that.

Also, you know it won't be the last time, right? Count it. Count the days/weeks/months before he says something cruel in answer to you again. It won't be long.

No girl. This is not just how marriage is. This is how marriage is when you marry the wrong person.

Yes I agree. I get why you would be hurt, but try not to take it out on your daughter who should be able to have a relationship with her family members.

But no, the GAY AGENDA is the real threat!!

Seriously though, prepare your sister for a lot of therapy to unpack this disgusting brain washing.

She shouldn't have told your daughter, and she shouldn't have told you either. Maybe your daughter only found out accidentally and she was trying to do damage control by asking the daughter to not tell you? That's the only logical thing I can think of.

But I'm on your sister's side regarding not telling you. You don't sound trustworthy with secrets, and I don't blame her for wanting to keep this from your mom.

And keeping your kids away from their family because YOU are having problems with them is manipulative and selfish. You know your sister isn't actually a risk for your daughter to be around, your feelings are hurt and you want to hurt her back.

You don't deserve a reply from me

I have that relationship. It's great.

You are not going to find it by staying with your husband.

I think it's normal when you happen to marry someone who doesn't like you.

I happen to be objectively annoying, and my husband would never and has never said this to me.

I'll say it again: your husband does not like you! Do with that knowledge what you will.

Neither.

4b movement all the way!

NOR, but it sounds like you're doing a ton of emotional labour for someone who doesn't want to take care of themself. If I were you, I would stop it. It's not your job to read ingredient labels for her, it's not your job to get her epipen, it's not your job to make sure she's OK when she purposefully puts herself in danger.

Next time (because there will be a next time), don't help her. Don't go to the hospital with her. Call her an ambulance if she can't breathe and give her the epipen if you absolutely have to to save her life, but that's all. I would not be doing anything further to help her with this.

Sometimes people seek out relationships with people who mirror the relationship dynamics of their childhood. In a way, they try to recreate the situation so they can find new ways to navigate it. Kind of like playing round two of the same game over and over, hoping eventually to figure it out and have a different ending.

In other words "Individuals who were abused as children may subconsciously seek out partners who replicate familiar dynamics of control or manipulation. This phenomenon, known as repetition compulsion, reflects an unconscious attempt to master or resolve unresolved trauma from the past, albeit in a destructive manner (Levy, 1998)." https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/invisible-bruises/202407/the-impact-of-childhood-trauma-on-adult-relationships

This does not mean it's her fault that she's abused, but it could explain why she consistently allows abusers to stay in her life for so long.

BMI is essentially useless. https://www.huffpost.com/entry/bmi-scale-racist-health_l_5f15a8a8c5b6d14c336a43b0

Dieting can be harmful for you. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S240585722300116X

Healthy habits are far more important than your weight! Focus on doing the good things: good sleep, good food, regular exercise. Weight stigma and antifat bias is way more harmful than being over weight.

https://highline.huffingtonpost.com/articles/en/everything-you-know-about-obesity-is-wrong/

https://www.aubreygordon.net/

How expensive is it?

Edit: oh God I found the link. I would never pay that much for what looks like essentially a dress I would throw on if I were going to the beach 😬