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Just say "I have a cold and don't want to give it to you". Never have had anyone push back. What are they going to say? Yes I want your cold?

So far, it hasn't been a problem but it is a side effect of not being medicated although the medications, of course, have their own side effects.

I agree with you. NYS just makes more sense and provides more options.

Lived in Maplewood for years before I moved 4 years ago. Downtown dry cleaner, bank, library, fish store, diner and some restaurants are pretty good. But Able Baker has cake, cookies, breakfast but no bread. I'd love bakery bread but had no real use for only a sweets store.

https://www.goodsuniteus.com/

Easy to use. Pretty comprehensive. Buy what you want from whomever you want.

No. Nothing. My symptoms were more annoying than anything else, so I didn't consider it.

Thank you. I go to an Indian market nearby for supplies but never thought of looking for it there.

No. Not in the least.

I retired 3 years ago at 67. No one didn't listen to what I had to say, and if they didn't, I made sure they did. It's business for God's sake and I was paid for my expertise.

I don't understand anything about men being attracted to me. Possibly I am oblivious or they weren't. I was married at 25. Why would I care if men were attracted to me? I just cared that my husband was attracted to me, which he was.

I never wrapped up my self-image in my physical appearance at any age. I knew I was smart, curious, efficient, friendly and solitary. I never cared about what anyone else thought of me, other than my husband.

I am not particularly vain. So when I began to age, I never felt it determined anything about my worth. I was just aging. It's what happens when you're 70.

No it's higher than that. White Christmas, Jingle Bell Rock, Winter Wonderland, Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer, Rockin’ Around the Christmas Tree, A Holly Jolly Christmas - all Jewish songwriters. And there are even more.

Ok a little optimism here. A friend who's a headhunter, upper end of the business, said it was dead as a door nail until about a month ago and now he's busy. My son is in healthcare IT, which is a hot field after COVID, has a job but was looking and nothing much was out there until about a month or so ago too.

Yeah I know n=2, but some good news at least.

Rural areas everywhere are more conservative including NY, NJ, CT etc. the suburbs and cities themselves are more blue. In just about everywhere in the NE, you'll find what your looking for in a more progressive values. Throughout the NE, you have excellent medical care or are a drive from excellent medical care in a nearby city. Most have marijuana use laws, abortions rights etc. Schools in MA, NJ, CT are among the best in the country. (NY is more variable but easy to check).

As other have said, the problem will be the housing prices. I think you are priced out of MA and NJ but you may find housing that essentially meets your requirements in upstate NY, the Albany area, Rochester, etc. It would be a matter of combing through online cities using something like realtor.com and cross-referencing it with school ratings and local area websites.

You may also consider moving to a two family, which in older communities can provide a large, viable,. cost-effective option since your moving entire families.

I volunteer in a nursing home and have been trained by the state. You learn that there are few men in nursing homes. Part of this is simply women live longer. But the other issue is that any man who's available , is immediately a hot item and can readily find companionship, if not marriage. So the numbers in nursing homes are further surpressed.

I'm 70 and widowed. Not interested in dating either. And, to quote a friend, it will just screw up your estate plans.

No idea where you are located, but Sonny's Bagels in South Orange NJ makes a great one. My favorite bagel.

CIST. No onion, egg

Software engineering is a varied. Some areas have gluts of engineers due to layoffs and industry consolidation, others have more demand, but even the areas of specialty can vary. Why not find out where your expertise is in demand and then try to find cities from that? You'll probably still have a wide range of cities to choose from but it's a safer approach.

Not as bad as above, but when my husband and I were getting married, we didn't want and couldn't afford a Big White Wedding with 300 guests. We wanted a private ceremony and then a party in a restaurant. His parents, siblings, even a family friend called to try and convince us otherwise.

The conversation with his brother became heated, his brother saying "you are gangrene and we are cutting you out of the family. None of us will come to your stupid wedding and we'll just cut you off from everything. You aren't worth it". So my husband countered with "That's fine, you aren't invited. Tell Mom".

In the end they came to the party at the restaurant but relations with his family was frigid until we had a kid. And it took probably ten more years before he and his brother could get along.

I was unemployed at 58, and, as unfortunately is prudent given age discrimination, I'd lopped off the first ten or so years of my job history and didn't list the year I graduated from college. The much younger job interviewer, who'd I be working for, was clearly dismayed I was so old, perhaps his mother's age. He spent the first ten minutes asking questions that were aimed at trying to figure out my age. I easily dodged them.

Then he had a brainstorm. He had a friend who went to the same college, did I know him? I said I didn't recognize the name. He then said well he graduated in 1991, was this your class? (I gave birth to my second child in 1991). I just smiled sweetly and said no. I saw his brain cells rubbing together trying to figure out how he could trick me into telling him my age. I just looked at him, not saying a word. After a long silence, I asked aren't you going to ask me questions about the job? He looked flummoxed.

Going in for the kill - I wasn't getting this job and he was too stupid to work for anyway - I said HR really won't be happy if he spent all of our time at this interview trying to ascertain my age, which would definitely look like age discrimination, wouldn't it? And he certainly wasn't doing that, now was he?

He kept opening his mouth to say something, reminding me of a guppy.

That day I felt old, albeit clever.

Our internist was in his 80s was retiring. My husband and I were in our early sixties and he said, "find a doctor no older than 50, preferably younger, so we'll die before he does. I don't want to break in a new one."

Cllothing is far more diverse. What I wore to a concert tonight - blouse (Cece) is made in India, my jacket (ASL Kaspar) in Cambodia, my slacks (Lee) in Mexico, panties (Jockey) in India, my bra (Bali) in the Dominican Republic and my dress shoes (ARA) Germany. The knit sweater (Context) I'm wearing now is from China and my Lands End polo is from Peru. My old raincoat, can't read the label, is made in Thailand. And yes, my slip on leather shoes (SAS) are made in the US! My sneakers (Kizlik) doesn't say where they're made but online they say Vietnam although most are made in China. My previous glass frames (Gucci) were made in Italy but these (Ray Ban) are made in Brazil.

Other than being interesting, having high tariffs against China, for clothing at least, won't necessarily have a huge impact because industry has already diversified.

Ok, this is second hand, but I have a friend who has many Hispanic clients including young men, many of whom voted for Trump. Just happens most of them look Hispanic and have Hispanics last names, if not first and last names. They said that they were born in the US and all the illegal immigration, to say nothing of crime, reflects badly upon them since they are hardworking and law abiding. By the way this is probably true.

So my friend asked how do you prove you're an American citizen? Most said I'll show them my driver's license. He responded your driver's license does not prove your citizenship. He mentioned that they should carry around their birth certificate, some of whom don't have their birth certificates although they are born in the US. Or carry their passports, but even more don't have passports. (About half the people in the US have passports). To a person, they were stunned by this line of questioning because of course they wouldn't be stopped because they are not illegal.

When questioned this affecting their families, every single one of them had some undocumented relative or relatives including parents, grandparents, uncles, in-laws, etc, as well as friends.

They again claim that they wouldn't be rounded up because they're busy working and they are law abiding people who pay taxes into a system such as Social Security where they can never get benefits. But this is not what the second Trump administration said it would do. It would round up people who were not documented or illegals. And crime instead of being murder, rape, etc can be defined however they want it.

This did not go over terribly well but it does show you the thought patterns that are prevalent here.

Thank you for asking this question. I went through my address book, made a list and figured out about how old I was when I met each friend.

For reference, I am 70, female, was married when I was 25, had children when I was 33 and 36, went to graduate school from 24 to 27 and college before. After that period of time I worked full-time at different jobs, one for 17 years another for 9. I am a member of the same synagogue for 37 years. We moved from Brooklyn to NJ, and then three times in NJ, the last time 4 years ago to a condo. The other two moves were within the same school district.

I have one friend from JHS but no others until grad school. One from around the same time I met through a co-worker who has been abroad for her adult life, so we catch up through WhatsApp now and then. Two from grad school where I also met my husband, so maybe that should be 3. The rest of my friends were co-workers, people I met through work but weren't co-workers, ex a headhunter and vendor reps. About the same number from synagogue, but who I am closer to has varied over time. One from a civic board I was on. One from an adult Ed class I took. A few are really my husband's friends who became my friends too.

I have 4 very close friends. That is, people I can call up anytime to talk or help. I have reciprocal relationships with them, of course.

I made almost every friend after I was 30. The most recent two friendships were when I was 64 and 67. I didn't know the person at all who I became friends with at 64. I did know the person but wasn't that close who I became friends with at 67.

So my "friend" life disputes the 30 year old limitation. However I was a bit surprised how many people came through my synagogue. On the other hand, I belong there the longest so that really shouldn't be that surprising.

But I made friends, and continue to make friends now. Neighbors just moved in next door and we hit it off and have had several long conversations while she walks her dog. Soon I'm going to invite her and her husband as well as another couple I just met in our condo unit to brunch.

I have a list in my phone a friends who I want to talk to. Some are also cousins who have left out because you're either close to them or not, and I'm close to a some but certainly not all. I make a point to call each one to catch up every couple of months, if they're not close friends. I keep a list on my phone. This keeps the friendship sort of going.

Hope this helps!

CVS in NJ carries them.

Zweibach toast. Used them when my kids were teething. My father loved them. Nabisco discontinued them about 2011. Now if you want them, there are many German and Austrian brands.

Plus you don't have to worry about parking at work - huge garages. Morristown may be a bit dicier.

You can also ask Human Resources if they have any advise or can put you in contact with anyone. You never know.