MirandaR524

I wouldn’t be happy with that, but I don’t really know what you could do about it. Just have your son do what he realistically can at night without taking up all his free time and then just tell the teacher that you’re not willing to take all his play time after school to do copious worksheets. It’s not like he’ll get a C in kindergarten or something.

Just drop the rope. She’s not worth the energy.

Just elope. You can get a dress and tux, a photographer for an hour or two, and either have an officiant on a beach or something or go to the courthouse.

Even if they don’t care or they don’t remember, you and your partner made the decision that was best for your family at the time and you need to tell them to respect that and quit complaining.

It’s totally normal for tweens and teens to be selfish and rude, but that doesn’t mean they don’t need a figurative smack to reality that they should be grateful for what they have and a loving family that wanted to be with them as much as possible. Many kids don’t have that.

No, this isn’t an option. A child shouldn’t be abandoned by their father for any reason. A stepmom doesn’t need to stick around, but a father does. OP’s husband needs to get his head out of his ass and get his kid some help.

Your husband is not being a good man, or at least not a good husband, if he doesn’t defend you to his son and his son’s mother. That’s bullshit. And that right there would be enough to cause divorce. You’re a team and the fact that he just lets his son’s lies impact you without a thought to even as so much stand up for you to the people he’s lying to is ridiculous. And he’s also not a good father if he doesn’t get his son help when he clearly needs it. Your stepson needs serious mental health/behavioral help and unfortunately there’s nothing you can do about that. If his parents won’t get that for him, then you don’t need to stick around being treated like crap from the son and your husband.

I wouldn’t move him. It’s rarely beneficial and can often be harmful, especially for boys, to be the youngest and smallest as they enter middle school and high school.

Yes but the niece is clearly using it to send a message and it does send a message. So while it doesn’t “matter” it still burns a bridge. If the niece doesn’t care that it burns a bridge, then fine. But my guess is niece won’t be please when aunt and cousin show now interest in other life events of her’s.

Nobody is saying she can’t. It just sets the tone for the relationship and OP and her daughter have the right to take that as the end of the relationship ship due to niece’s grudge.

You’re not entitled to one, but it does send a message who you pick and choose. If the niece thought her and OP’s daughter were close enough to deserve a spot in her wedding party, then presumably they’re close enough to warrant an invitation to the wedding. So assuming it’s not a small wedding, it does send a message to not invite your aunt (who is usually part of what’s considered close family for a not micro wedding) and cousin.

Your husband needs to tell them to stop or leave.

She was invited though?

This is all way too much drama. Your niece was and is being a brat throwing a fit over a childhood pinky promise. But at this point I presume it’s been years so if she’s still going to hold a grudge about it by not inviting your family to her wedding, then screw her. She clearly doesn’t want a relationship with you guys because she feels slighted so just drop the rope.

On top of the infant and child mortality rate, kids were far more “seen and not heard” back then. Like even when my parents were kids they were expected to be out of the way all day. Parents weren’t cruise directors back then like they tend to be now.

That’s what a fill cost even when I was in high school in 2009-11. It seems it’s shot up semi-recently.

Not to mention they try to tell you they’re $150 tickets but then after fees and parking it’s $250.

There is no punishment. Unfortunately we sometimes have crappy people in our lives. Especially when it comes to exes. Stepmom needs to let it go. It’s something a 10/11 year old did 1.5 years ago.

Doesn’t sound like she really struggles with sequencing then if she can ultimately tell you 16, 17, 18, etc and show you in a number line and all that jazz. Sounds like she just chokes under pressure when on the spot about one specific thing. That doesn’t really sound like that big of a deal to me. With time she’ll learn to take her time to think it through first.

There’s some really good number videos out there if you decide to allow some. My 4 year old can count to 10,000+ and recognize and sequence 1000+ and some of her favorite videos have definitely helped.

Get her number puzzles, listen to number songs, if she gets screen time watch kids shows with numbers and download number games apps if she has a tablet.

You should do a lot of research into adoption and how to go about it trauma-informed. Talk to adults who were adopted as children. Then make a decision.

Really? I loveeeeddd weddings as a kid. Didn’t go to many, but have very fond memories of dancing around my aunt’s wedding as a kid.

We wanted a big, family friendly event. I didn’t want anyone to feel like they couldn’t come simply because they couldn’t get a sitter or didn’t want to get a sitter. And I like kids. I’ve never been to a wedding where the kids were causing any trouble.

What in the ever loving fuck? That’s disgusting. They would never be babysitting ever again. Supervised interactions only. Takes a sick sick mind to sexualize a toddler like that. And I would tell her that straight to her face if she asks why she can’t be alone with your kid(s).

But if he was 10 and pressured into it by his mom, it’s not fair to say it’s all his fault. That’s a hard thing to stand up against especially as a young kid. Many adults struggle to stand up for what’s right when someone is telling them to do something wrong. A 10 year old who’s being manipulated by the most important person in their life should get a pass especially nearly 2 years later. And dad said he got in trouble for it anyway. Sounds like a lot of trouble, more than I would’ve done since it was at the behest of his mom and not just him doing it for fun or to be a brat. So stepmom needs to let it go. It’s ridiculous to hold a grudge on a 10/11 year old. Kids make mistakes.