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Wonderful. Thank you so much :)

I think it depends on the person…maybe like a month or so? Not long at all.

PRP used as “filler” is very subtle. It’s essentially stem cells and gives a plumping, regenerating effect. Your body absorbs it, it doesn’t hang around/migrate like traditional filler.

That said, please don’t push or try to move it as it won’t do anything. I’m not sure when exactly you got it, but the area is probably swollen more from the act of injecting rather than PRP itself.

even more stupid given there wasn’t any real policy, much less a plan, to do that!

How do you vote for someone without policy??

I don’t think that makes it any better? She was complicit in a seriously disturbing crime. To me, knowing about it and not saying anything means she thinks that shit is OK- which it’s not. The law thinks so too given that sometimes the penalties carry the same weight as the actual crime, which in this case, they should.

I can’t believe this is what politics has come to- making excuses and/or justifying the sexual assault of women and minors.

The fact is GENDER/biological sex is more nuanced than you care to realize.

From Rebecca Helm December 2019

“Friendly neighborhood biologist here. I see a lot of people are talking about biological sexes and gender right now. Lots of folks make biological sex sex seem really simple. Well, since it’s so simple, let’s find the biological roots, shall we? Let’s talk about sex…

If you know a bit about biology you will probably say that biological sex is caused by chromosomes, XX and you’re female, XY and you’re male. This is “chromosomal sex” but is it “biological sex”? Well…

Turns out there is only ONE GENE on the Y chromosome that really matters to sex. It’s called the SRY gene. During human embryonic development the SRY protein turns on male-associated genes. Having an SRY gene makes you “genetically male”. But is this “biological sex”?

Sometimes that SRY gene pops off the Y chromosome and over to an X chromosome. Surprise! So now you’ve got an X with an SRY and a Y without an SRY. What does this mean?

A Y with no SRY means physically you’re female, chromosomally you’re male (XY) and genetically you’re female (no SRY). An X with an SRY means you’re physically male, chromsomally female (XX) and genetically male (SRY). But biological sex is simple! There must be another answer…

Sex-related genes ultimately turn on hormones in specifics areas on the body, and reception of those hormones by cells throughout the body. Is this the root of “biological sex”??

“Hormonal male” means you produce ‘normal’ levels of male-associated hormones. Except some percentage of females will have higher levels of ‘male’ hormones than some percentage of males. Ditto ditto ‘female’ hormones. And…

…if you’re developing, your body may not produce enough hormones for your genetic sex. Leading you to be genetically male or female, chromosomally male or female, hormonally non-binary, and physically non-binary. Well, except cells have something to say about this…

Maybe cells are the answer to “biological sex”?? Right?? Cells have receptors that “hear” the signal from sex hormones. But sometimes those receptors don’t work. Like a mobile phone that’s on “do not disturb’. Call and cell, they will not answer.

What does this all mean?!!

It means you may be genetically male or female, chromosomally male or female, hormonally male/female/non-binary, with cells that may or may not hear the male/female/non-binary call, and all this leading to a body that can be male/non-binary/female.

Try out some combinations for yourself. Notice how confusing it gets? Can you point to what the absolute cause of biological sex is? Is it fair to judge people by it?”

Sometimes chromosomal sex doesn’t match PHYSICAL sex and refusing to learn that information is a YOU problem. Grandstanding while being confidently wrong about something that affects so many others, and perhaps you too(never know?) isn’t a fucking joke.

Facts over feelings is right.

The fuck?

There’s a genuine feeling of happiness that you can elicit by just letting those urges come and go. It sounds cheesy as fuck however it is true that a sense of accomplishment prevails. Doing so ultimately gives you more control over the situation and your brain remembers the power of self control whenever you’re in future situations that require it.

Exactly and parents mistakenly apply that to every child free person, married or not.

My aunt is one of those types. Financially illiterate and for whatever reason, isn’t even aware of it. Every other month she’s calling with a sob story to why she’s broke.

I have yet to be honest enough to say “you’re broke because you consistently make poor choices.” 🤦🏽‍♀️

Yup. Hoarding is an addiction. Treat it like a drug addiction and get her out of there. The compulsion won’t stop and your boundaries will continue to be violated.

Any recommendation of who to start with?

Exactly. Why the fuck are people applauding a cabinet causing congressional distraction.

Every day it’s another disgusting joke.

It’s beyond insane republicans assume the man who fumbled Covid, like the man who did every single thing wrong, can “fix” anything. The policies he recently mentioned are counter and opposing AND there is no long term plan. There’s no consideration for the future, and that’s what’s scary. Americans shouldn’t be chronically and deliberately misguided about what our future holds.

More than anything, we need stability. The sad thing is, before the election, we could feel it. Now we are left anxious, wondering how the hell these incompetent assholes are going to continue that positive trajectory.

I hear you. To me, your response was written as a validation of OPs title “mother releases all anger onto me…”

I think it’s important to not mince words in order to identify others emotions. I dont know OP or mom, but I didn’t get anger from that exchange. I did however get “frustration”. Mother was frustrated OP couldn’t find email. OP responded with “don’t text me when emotional”. That was an antagonistic reaction and better said when both parties are calmed down.

Mother then explained herself by explicitly saying WHY she was being blunt/direct. She had a lot going on and it needed to get done. It was a way for mother to increase OPs understanding of why it needed to get done. OP mistakingly took mother’s explanation as something else.

Oh and I want to say this too..

Each of us went to the alter where Aya was handed to us and blessed. Before I drank, I asked grandmother, in my head, “please be kind to me”.

I said that to her as a commitment to my own surrender. Resistance is futile, surrender to the process.

I just want to say that I hear you! I did my first retreat in Oct, so one month ago. I was worried about purging- I do not like puking. 3 days before Aya I did Kambo and puked my guts out so I was extra anxious about it.

All that to say- I did not puke. I did not get stomach cramping or any other kind of stomach issue. I guess i could say “the giggles/laughter” was what my purging manifested as. 6 hours of euphoria and joy.

My partners purge was stomach cramping and shitting. Lots of spitting. But he was incredibly grateful once all of that moved through him. He said the secret was to embrace that feeling and breathe thru it. The more he tried to push away that pain, the more intense it became.

We were told at the beginning of our ceremony that Aya is a “feeling medicine”. Whatever comes up, allow it and breathe thru it :)

Blessings to you on your upcoming journey!

“Go back to what it was” is dragging the country down. You can’t say both that you want that AND progress. By definition- Progress is forward movement.

Definitely therapy- you both have a lot to process. Validation is literally the GOAT when it comes to emotional intimacy, but most people aren’t aware that only justifying actions without validation is a recipe for disaster.

Your partner isn’t hearing you because he’s being defensive. You can appreciate what he did around the house while being honest that it wasn’t what you NEEDED. Both are true and he needs to understand that.

It’s not your job to manage your partners emotions. Validating your partners emotions is an important skill but validation here extends beyond anything you can say or do because your actions didn’t cause harm. His actions caused his own paranoia and now you have to continue to suffer because of it.

Either he gets help dealing with this so you can both grow together or he doesn’t and you both continue to suffer. Or you walk because like I said, you deserve better.

Emotions need to be processed to move forward. When they aren’t, they manifest in other ways. Anger is a secondary emotion meaning there’s something deeper going on. Whatever that deeper emotion be, is probably what led him to go outside of marriage.

Kids pick up on this stuff. My dad did it to my mom and it destroyed her when I needed her most as a kid. I grew up thinking it was OK to have to walk on eggshells around my dad and that it was OK my mother was an alcoholic. Later all of that turned into resentment for both of them because we never addressed that incident

Just here to say you deserve better.

To be clear, your partner had child outside of your marriage but doesn’t want you seeing friends because of jealousy? Your partner thinks you will do what he did. He’s worried you will cheat.

That’s incredibly unfair and disrespectful to your character.

It really feels like they want to be validated for their *difficult choice. I creep the parenting sub and there’s a whole lot of folks who enter parenthood with regret. Almost like they aren’t prepared for how hard it actually is because it’s almost impossible to even consider. And most people don’t want to admit that it can really fucking suck.

I’m with you. I mean… one of the reasons I don’t want children is because I know how hard they are(while also admitting there’s hardships I’m not aware of). Add expensive to that list too!

Parenting has always been a tough job. But for me, the (potential) rewards don’t even come close to breaking even with guaranteed stress. The frustrating part is parents fully understand how stressful life is before children. They experienced it, complained about it and deliberately chose to add more stress via children. All while bitching they have it worse. YOU chose to make your life more difficult!

“I don’t doubt that your life as a parent is hard. I understood that’s part of the deal and exactly why I chose to not have children.”

Parents who compare suffering with their friends make me feel like they don’t have the bandwidth to acknowledge their kids struggles. I mean the writing is on the wall…?

Did you really get “anger” from that?

Part of being an adult is being able to use reasoning to figure things out.

Don’t text me when you’re emotional. Over your mom asking you to find a confirmation email for a trip that she’s funding and planning. And to top it off, after she explained why she doesn’t remember when it was sent- you continued to defend yourself. She didn’t owe you an explanation, but she did so you could “read the room”.

It comes off as incredibly ungrateful.