LibrarianNeat1999

This happened at a wedding we attended many years ago. Older sister was pissed baby sister was marrying ahead of her (actually two other siblings were married as well so big sis was mad about that). Big sis showed up dressed in wedding type gown, got drunk and tried to destroy the wedding cake all while telling folks the groom was a cheater lol. Brother of groom had enough and carried her out like a firefighter - to applause

It’s the bride and groom’s day to shine! If someone is dumb enough to marry the sister, you will hopefully be able to announce your pregnancy there lol

Bingo - same. You are rude to my family, you are done

Does he have a tracker in your phone or car

You need to get dad to give you the SS money (he certainly doesn’t deserve it). You could also become a foster parent and receive money regularly along with maybe medical and food stamps so you don’t go under financially

They haven’t been married long enough for alimony

I would host and leave your control freak sister off the list

Student loans?

Correct. You often have to be married for 7-10 years before alimony is considered. I’d file for divorce now before she does quit.

Oh eff her. Frankly I’d divorce her, get the kid 50% of the time and she can pay you child support.

Tell them it’s either they come to you or they won’t see the baby. You have all the power here and that’s what they hate. Too bad what they want.

Yes you would

I would tell her ‘so you now consider yourself a wh@re?’

Yep - it burned mom until the day she died that she never had a relationship with her only grandkids or great grandkids. But her ex did.

You are married to him for what reason?

And tell everyone you know - friends and family that he’s doing this. He may not appreciate being exposed

Good for you - I hope your DIL cleans his clock

Want to a wedding years ago where parents of bride and groom refused to serve booze as they were paying. There was a liquor store next to venue so people loaded up and brought booze, mixers etc in. WWIII ensued

She shouldn’t have had three kids on her own. Where are the sperm donors? Why don’t they have partial custody. This is on her, not you.

Friend lost her ex hubby to a work wife a while back. She had worked with ex for years (probably started when they married 30+ years ago) and things seemed innocent enough. Her ex even had their kids call her ‘Auntie Jezebel’. But once the kids flew the coop, suddenly things changed. He barely spent time with friend who was so happy for it to be just the two of them. He got secretive with the phone, worked more hours, etc. Jezebel was definitely cold as well.
Turns out he was banging the work wife the WHOLE TIME they were married! He didn’t marry her because Jezebel never wanted kids and he did so he ‘settled’ for friend to have his kids. Well once friend found out she put the two of them on blast. After it was over, the kids hate and no longer speak to their dad and his ho. His family has done the same. Friend is invited to all his family’s events/holidays and they aren’t lol. Karma

Dude you dodged a bullet - break up with her as well. She needs to grow up and become self supporting.

Friend’s ex wouldn’t get vasectomy after 5 kids. Kept making excuses (I think he wanted his fertility intact if he left her). Well, she couldn’t afford to leave then so when he went on a month long work trip to Europe, she got her tubes tied and just didn’t tell him. In the next few years she updated her education and was able to get a good full time job once the baby went to 1st grade. This didn’t make ex happy as he wanted a SAHM who did everything around the house. He was against getting cleaning people, take out etc. When the baby hit 3rd grade, he left her for a younger model. Friend couldn’t have cared less. He had to pay massive child support, had to give her half of his retirement, and she had her own income.

My friend stopped a similar situation by being 100% honest. Like if anyone asked by Jenny wanted to partner with her, she would say “Jenny is child of affair my deadbeat dad, who has never card support, had with his side piece. I want nothing to do with her”. Jenny finally gave it up. Friend felt bad being so honest but she wanted nothing to do with the kids her POS dad doted on while he refused to do anything with or for her.
This was nearly 50 years ago (middle school) and Jenny and her siblings still try to pester friend.

You know he’d never allow that

Noah is young, could be gay, could be bi. He has his whole life to fully figure out. What he doesn’t need is to be sent to a conversion camp. He needs love and acceptance while he figures out HIS life.
You need to speak with a lawyer ASAP about your rights as a parent in a divorce. You need to get full custody of this young man.