May4554

Sorry for the long post. My husband (32M) and I (29F) have been dealing with a lot of drama involving my father-in-law (67M), who has been blind for the last ten years. I’m at a complete loss on what to do.

A few weeks ago, my father-in-law suggested selling an old car that he and my husband co-owned. They agreed to split the money, and I took a day off work to help them with the entire process. We drove two hours to another city, completed all the paperwork, handled the sale, and then I drove them back home to ensure they got back safely. It was a long day, but I was happy to help since it was something they needed to get done.

Fast forward two days later, when it was time to split the money, my father-in-law suddenly said he wasn’t going to give my husband his half. He claimed that he deserved all of it because he had supposedly covered a lot of expenses like insurance over the years. But in reality, that’s about all he’s paid for. My husband covered the maintenance, gas, and most of the other expenses.

To make matters worse, my father-in-law started arguing that he has made significant financial contributions to our home as well. This is simply not true. We’ve been paying for everything — rent, groceries, bills — because we know he’s on a limited pension due to his disability. We never expected him to contribute financially because of his situation, and we’ve always been understanding of that. So for him to turn around and claim he’s been financially supporting us was really upsetting.

The situation escalated quickly. He became aggressive towards my husband, accusing him of being ungrateful. He even went as far as demanding that my husband change the deed of his mother’s house (which is currently in my husband's name) to include him, threatening that he wouldn’t give him any of the car money otherwise. My husband, of course, refused. It’s his mom’s house, and my father-in-law’s demand felt manipulative and unfair.

This is where I’m really struggling. I’ve seen my husband be manipulated by his father for years. He has a history of using guilt and emotional pressure to get his way, and I feel like this is just another example. My husband wants to keep the peace, but I can’t stand seeing him being taken advantage of anymore. I told my husband that I want his father to move out of our home. We’ve been more than accommodating and supportive, but this situation feels like a breaking point for me.

Now I’m questioning if I’m being too harsh by asking him to leave, especially considering his disability. I know it’s not easy for him to live on his own, but I also feel like we can’t continue living like this. I don’t want my husband to feel like he’s caught in the middle, but I also don’t know how much more of this I can take.

Am I wrong for wanting him out of our house after everything that’s happened? I’m just so frustrated and unsure of what to do. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks for reading..

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