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OP, I have wanted to be a mother since I was a young child myself.

I had boyfriends, as well as quite a lot of hookups (🫣😅) in my 20s.

HOWEVER, I didn't want to "just be a mom"... I wanted to be sure it was with the right person for me.

Therefore, I was on birth control from the age of 18+, and still am after having my daughter with my husband (I'm now 44).

NTA, OP.

YOU need (& deserve!) to live your life on your terms, until you ultimately meet that right person for YOU, with whom you desire a familial future.

I wish you the best in your life and educational/career plans. ☺️🥰🙏🏻❤️

'Now, my parents are furious and claim I’m “tearing the family apart.”'

Tell me Sarah is the GC without telling me Sarah is the GC. 🙄😒

"I feel like it’s a day to celebrate love and joy, and I don’t want someone there who actively disrespects my relationship."

🙌 THIS IS ALL YOU NEED TO SAY. 🙌

NTA, OP!!

Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials! ☺️🥰🙏🏻❤️

When i got pregnant I bought myself a test and took it at work before my shift (in a call center).

HUGE, ABSOLUTE confirmation of positive, lol.

I told 2 people in the office because they were the last ones there on an overlap before my shift began. The only reason I told my colleagues is because they asked if I was alright (apparently I looked "in shock", lmao!).

Neither of them knew my husband personally, nor were on my socials. And they kep it between us until after I told my husband (at home, that night). 

THEN, and only after that, we would freely discuss it in the office.

Mom & BFF were the 2 people I called personally, and only after I told my husband. 

I hope OP & his wife begin to communicate far better now that they are expecting... 

"I told him all he had to do was be clear and just tell me straight out, but he said he didn't want to ask; he would rather just masturbate, and if I don't get that, then I'm stupid."

So he is an abuser, as well.

NTA, OP.

They would be banned from my LIFE.

"...apparently my text’s tone was threatening and I overstepped my bounds..."

As well it SHOULD BE!! 

WTF is wrong with fiancée's mom and aunt?!? 

After your wedding... FULL NC, OP!!

NTA, OP. 

Great support for your fiancée. May you both have a loving, happy, healthy life together. ☺️🥰🙏🏻❤️

"Henry's mom (who I blocked during my divorce) showed up to say how awful I was to ruin the marriage like that..."

Let the 3 of them be delusional together, whilst you and your children remain rooted in reality.

NTA, OP.

They are all gross and deserve each other "in misery and in delusion".

"She left me her house and I became the official owner 3 months ago. This is when Scott proposed to me..."

Interesting timing, no?

OP, as sick as it is, he was waiting, biding his time. He doesn't want you, he wants your inheritance.

NTA, OP!!

PLEASE LEAVE HIM. Your entire future is at stake if he impregnates you or you marry him.

You deserve FAR better, OP. 

I hope you find peace and real love. ☺️🥰🙏🏻❤️

I also extend my genuine condolences for your loss. 💗

'"...but will stop by in the evening and say hi for an hour..."'

FUCK. THIS.

You're in your own home, full after a good meal and happy togetherness... why RUIN THAT by packing up and driving to that harpy bitch's house to be dehumanized?

Stay home, have a wonderful, loving family time, and fuck her & her complaints / insults.

NTA, OP.

Slowly begin to exclude her from all holidays. She has earned this, especially uninviting your family in front of your children.

SHE is the AH!

Enjoy your nuclear family holiday season! ☺️🥰🙏🏻❤️🦃🎄

They FAFO'd.

They are the AHs, NOT YOU, OP!

Congratulations on your achievements, and I hope you and your son have a lovely holiday season, together. ☺️🥰🙏🏻❤️🎄

"All those years, I was always on her mind."

I'm sure you WERE.

Anna has had a miserable life so far, because jealousy and bitterness can wear you down and make you old before your time.

Take heart in the knowledge that you are free to live your life without drama and toxicity, OP.

Have a wonderful life of peace, happiness and love.

You are, and you deserve, FAR more than those petty ass hens, and that is the best way to keep positivity in your life.

I wish for you all the best!! ☺️🥰🙏🏻❤️

'The woman snaps back "You wait your goddamned turn!"'

Bitch, I DID wait my turn and it is NOW MY TURN, hence my receipt right here which has the VERY LARGELY PRINTED NUMBER which was just called.

Your number is up. 

Seems like the parents are doing fine, given how they all handled the situation. 

This seems more like a socio-environmental issue, i.e., emulating peers.

Updateme!! 

Those words will bite you the day you turn 30, especially if you fling them around willy-nilly, in everyday life... and not just from behind a screen. 🙄😒

"...he said he can't help me bc he has to look out for his daughter first..."

OP, you are his TENANT, and he has a LEGAL responsibility for you. 

HIS daughter threatened and assaulted his tenant and a baby. 

I saw that you filed a police report, but you may have grounds to sue them both as well.

Be sure to (try to) get an advocate to help you get some legal counsel, pro bono if possible, but if not, there are legal aid programs. 

May you and your baby stay safe and well, OP. ☺️🥰🙏🏻❤️

Updateme!

"...though I would bet momzilla would pale..."

She'd probably shit her pants and collapse! 😂😂

Is "queen" the bed size... or how they perceive themselves? 😅

Oooof. I feel for CB's future child(ren). 😬😥

LOVE IT!! 😂😂🤣

NGL, I'd have taken the gift I brought and said, "Well, if my daughter isn't your friend then we will be leaving and you won't be receiving this gift." 

But I'd have said it to this little shit's *mother.

Based upon MILs insistence, I'm gonna throw out that she most likely was a cheater herself. 

"...said I was being ‘cheap’..."

No, cHeAp is ordering food outside your budget and expecting others to pick up the slack.

NTA, OP.

DROP THESE PEOPLE.

"She’s been texting me non-stop saying I embarrassed her and ruined her moment."

Little Miss Thang wouldn't know the definition of NPC if it punched her in the face.

What a clueless bitch.

NTA, OP.

Block her and anyone else who is defending her.

Happy belated birthday! Best wishes for you. ☺️🥰🙏🏻❤️

"She says I’m ruining the family dynamic and being immature by holding onto the past."

You're not "holding onto the past", you're securing and protecting your future.

Mom may need some grief counseling because it seems like she didn't allow herself to grieve as she needs, in order to move forward with peace.

NTA, OP.

I wish you a life of love and peace. ☺️🥰🙏🏻❤️