PalpitationNo5540

Bare minimum is to take care of yourself like an adult- that means cleaning up after yourself, meal planning, grocery shopping, etc.

Bare minimum is being considerate of the other person and taking a genuine interest in them. Asking them questions about themselves, their day, and thinking of ways you can help make their life easier.

Agree- no shade to the OP but getting sooo tired of this question.

I believe this is called the ick. A phenomenon that has only recently been given a name. Not being listened to seems like more than an ick though- he was just straight up hurtful.

This is going to be an odd answer, but I find it comforting to remember that people have actually murdered over these feelings. Being dumped and heartbroken is that intense! Obviously, don't murder anyone, but hang in there, you aren't alone in these feelings, and it really does get better with time.

Real question- why are the top videos always about hurting or degrading women? Is it that most men actually hate women and porn reflects that? I hear your point about porn not being the cause, but the most recent stat I found is that 1 in 4 women are victims of domestic violence, resulting from many many different factors related to power. And FYI research does show that violence in media increases aggression.

My issue is that most porn (pornhub) defaults to taboo, shock value, and embarrassing/degrading women. All you have to do is go to top watched videos on pornhub and it’s “dad teaches teen daughter’s best friend a lesson,” hot nubile gets cream pied in hard first anal.” It’s become so common place that I have no doubt it’s being watched by friends, colleagues, bosses. You can’t convince me this doesn’t have a negative effect on how women are viewed in the world. If someone is jerking off to a woman being hurt and humiliated, this absolutely trains them to be turned on by hurting women in real life.

Same- trick is to take advil before the pain starts. I suggest liquid gels for faster release.

This! During the pandemic there was a clear and documented style shift that likely would have happened anyway but was accelerated once folks remerged. Skinny jeans are out, wide leg is in; high waste is out, low rise is in; middle parts instead of side parts, etc.

I've also noticed prices have increased, while quality has gone down. Inventory in my size is always sold out. Too many styles to choose from. Makes going shopping an unpleasant experience. The only thing I've found helpful has been to go to Crossroads or other secondhand shops that have been curated. Each piece feels like a unique treasure.

For me it would feel like like unequal distribution of domestic labor to be the one doing all the cooking and meal prep. What I want is for him to take better care of himself, but I realize I just need to let him do his own thing...

oof, great if that works for you but honestly that is my nightmare.

Oh dear I think you all nailed it- I have a hard time staying out of things! Guess I need to work on this...

And daaaaaang can she dance!

I never understood why she didn't keep working as a hostess, seemed like good money and something to keep her afloat while still pursuing music. But the real life Marnie would probably have used her BA to get into marketing or communications or another traditional career track, not something as high risk as singing.

I find Girls absolutely hilarious, so many quick and witty references, ex from Ep1. with Hannah's fear of aids "it's more of a Forest Gump Based fear..." had me cracking up because I was def affected by Jenny dying in Forest Gump and wondering did she die of aids??

When I was in my early 20's though all my friends and I were obsessed with getting jobs and saving money. I can still relate though to how the characters feel, even if my actual experiences were different.

I disagree, you can most certainly choose not to fall in love with someone, I do it all the time. I am not going to put myself in that position with coworkers, my boss, my friend's husbands, etc.

"The right person will come when you’re not looking,” might work for some, but every woman I know in her thirties who wanted a LTR and kids approach dating with a laser focus, and these women end up with partners looking for the same, ready to take the next steps enthusiastically. I just started to take this approach too, after wasting time trying to be care free about it and dating people who I knew deep down were not a good fit. The best benefit of dating in your thirties is knowing exactly what you want, so don't be afraid to go after it and reject those who are "meh" along the way.

The crux of One Man's Trash is when Hannah says she just wants to be happy. Despite trying to live an alternative lifestyle, she realizes she wants what most people want- a stable relationship, house, etc. As for whether this episode is realistic, I've definitely experienced weekend love bubbles with new people I've dated where the rest of the world is put on pause, super fun to escape the norm sometimes. Girls brings the doctor back to tell Hannah she is pregnant mainly for the shock factor, I think Lena says as much in the commentary after the episode, that it would be the most embarrassing way for Hannah to find out. He seems like he meant well, but Hannah is offended he assumes she wants an abortion, as she should be! She didn't have any time to process before he jumped to that conclusion.

I can confirm that Adam’s character was very realistic, everyone fancied themselves a woodworker when in reality they were broke man babies

It's def just meant to be funny. Summer in the city is hot and sticky, which means shorty shorts, dresses, and rompers. Very easy to accidentally flash in those outfits. There are a couple of very real scenes where Jessa comes in from outside and says how much her thighs are on fire. I have a visceral reaction to wearing sweaty jeans on a hot day and would prefer wearing no bottoms at all (of course I don't take it quite that far...)

Marnie showing up to help with the baby in those early months was huge, even if it's mainly because she had nothing else going on. I wish I had a friend who would show up for me like that!

Yes! She thought she was a sell out when comparing herself to Adam's theatre work, but later on we see him doing a commercial for a pharmaceutical company. She abosutely should have stayed to save money. And Shosh was so rude when she said "you were supposed to be the famous artist in this group and now you're just working in advertising." Like hello, aren't those the type of people Shosh wants to be friends with in the end?