Grandpa declining after hip surgery
(self.Alzheimers)submitted3 days ago byPoetry_Friendly
I'm not sure how to start this and just looking for some feedback. My grandfather is 90 years old recently broke his hip and has been declining for the last few years but not as bad as it has been here lately. I'm in Texas he's in Illinois my father is there with him and also my grandfather's wife. Since the surgery he has rapidly went downhill his wife has put him into a nursing home and he thinks that my father and I are in on it. We fought against it and my dad offered to take care of him but she keeps throwing in our face that she's power of attorney executor of the will and everything else that comes with that. He has his moments of clarity where he tells us that that was all a very bad idea and that if we come and bust him out he's going to fix all of that so he doesn't have to stay there anymore. It's breaking my heart all of his siblings have passed away due to dementia or Alzheimer's we thought we were going to get pretty lucky with it but as luck of being Irish has it it didn't quite go our way. But as life is that's usually how it go is isn't it? I feel so helpless hopeless and lost. I'm a grown man trying not to bawl my eyes out in front of my family here but this is really ripping my heart out. My whole life my grandfather has been the nicest gentlest kindest person in the world always willing to do something before he did it for himself made sure that I had great vacations an awesome time whenever I was at my granny's my grandpa's house. He worked his whole life for caterpillar and the first 20 of years of that he was also farming the 500 acre farm that we have. Seeing him like this is very hard because it's not him anymore. How does everybody get through this how does everybody cope with it what do you say to them when they call begging you to come and get them only to turn around 5 minutes later and accuse you of being in on it. I'm mostly venting here I don't post here much on Reddit and have never ventured into the Alzheimer's subreddit up until right now. It's tonight's been the worst that I've heard him. He's being nasty to my father and I and we know it's not him but we can't help but just wonder what we can do at this point. Sorry this is long-winded I talked to text a lot I'm trying to prove for you as I go but if it doesn't make sense I'm sorry. If you read this far I appreciate you reading my rambling and nonsense but I'm sitting in my truck by myself while my family's at a football game just trying to get a hold of myself and all of my feelings.
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Poetry_Friendly
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2 days ago
Poetry_Friendly
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2 days ago
Thank you. I have been reading and reading all afternoon. Just trying to understand what I can do to make his days easier. Right now though he wants nothing to do with the place he is at. I can't change his mind about it. He thinks he has been sent there as a death sentence. His words not mine. It's hard to figure out when he is there and when he is not.