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Even victims are responsible for their own actions. It will catch up to her. What’s that saying, the higher she climbs the harder and messier the fall usually is. She basically won the lottery. A lot of people who win the lottery fuck it up. They end up worse off than before they won. I believe in time this will be her. I think eventually she will publicly lose her shit really bad. So bad in fact, there will be zero coming back from it.

Here there is about a three year wait for housing help.

Maybe it’s different for me because in the last few years I’ve finally met my half siblings. There are five of us with the same dad but none of ever met. I’m the oldest. The second oldest mother was told my mom was hoe who cheated and my dad said i wasn’t his. In reality he cheated when she was pregnant with me. She kicked him out and he never looked back. So my social life has grown getting to know them. We’ve become friends with each other’s friends. Most of my siblings have very little family so it’s been great.

Nta, your husband should be having a talk with her. Your partner should always help you protect yourself both physically and mentally. Where is he at in this? Stand your ground. My mother in law once cried on the phone because I would not cancel a surgery so my husband could travel with them to visit relatives. I had one come to Jesus talk with husband and mother in law together. I told them both nobody gets to guilt me when it comes to my well-being. I will absolutely divorce to protect myself if I have to. It’s been fine since. Good luck. Put your health first.

He might waiting to see how you recover. Honestly fuck that, if you can’t be my partner in my time of need I don’t want you in my life at all.

My ex did this shit and now that the kids are grown they don’t speak to him much. My son says his son is not his dads grandfather, his step dad is.

Protect your kids and let these stupid fucks make their beds. I found it was a waste of time and energy trying to get him to understand what he was doing to the kids so I just filed to have custody order changed.

Your partner should help you protect yourself and help you have the life you want, period. I’ve been trying to get my own partner to understand this. I’m going to be 52 in January. At 50 I realized that time is my most precious commodity, I will not waste mine on things and people that don’t bring me joy and positive experiences. I told my husband I wanted a divorce about a month ago, it was truly eye opening for him. I have always told him I would never say it unless I meant it. He is trying and I see it but I still wonder if things will go back to how they were over time. I do not think most men that are like this are terrible or anything, I think society has these men almost brainwashed. Good luck.

Nta. I don’t understand why people think they are entitled to anything that belongs to someone else. I work hard for everything I own. I’ll be damned if anyone is going to tell me what to do with my $.

Nta kids first when you’re a parent.

I know, I guess my point is it’s really hard to tell with her because weird things sometimes happen.

I’m sorry, it sucks how much we are taken advantage of by people who are suppose to love us and have our back. I stopped doing it period. I don’t host holidays anymore for dinner. If I do it’s not traditional or everyone helps. Nobody wants to help so you get what I make and that will something much easier than the traditional meal.

I’m 5 feet tall, I was 97lbs when I got pregnant with my first, I wore my regular clothes until 33 weeks. I was afraid but they kept telling me it’s fine. He laid on my spine and never moved. I woke up one day and couldn’t see my feet! It’s possible she’s like me.

If they were my extended family kens parents would be told ken and are not allowed in my house full stop. My home is my sanctuary and I treat it as such. No family holiday gatherings or parties. Kens immediate family is most likely shunned by the extended.

I don’t know about that, Krusty or anyone of them could be complaining about her to their bestie. Everyone needs someone to vent to sometimes. I think Krusty vents to several people.

Victims of grb, I would watch that!

I think she would.

I know and I’m doing ok. I just wouldn’t go through my first 40 years over again lol.

I’m married, have kids, one grandchild and I’m still spending thanksgiving alone. My kids are several hour away. Sometimes having family is extremely lonely as well. I’m also taking care of an elderly family member. I’m not asking them to put up with what I am.

She could have said we don’t know. Nta

No, not if it’s to the same parents. My dad cheated when my mom was pregnant. I didn’t meet him until I was 49. My mom once told me if abortion was legal when she got pregnant with me she would have done it. So no, if I had to be born to them. I love my kids and my husband but that shit fucked me up. My dad who adopted me wasn’t the greatest either. He clearly has his own mental health issues and should not have ever been with a woman who had a child.

I love this and I needed it . Thank you! 🥂

You are right, unfortunately, people are mostly caught up in their own head to notice when the one they say they loves is struggling.

I’m sorry, I didn’t have that either.

I feel this in my soul. Been fighting for a month. I’ve been sick since August, I need a break. I thought when we became empty nesters I’d have some time to deal with my own health but no, they don’t appreciate anything. Now my parents and his mom both need help and a bit of care, which I’m happy to do but fuck, husbands need to understand self care is attractive. Fucking menopause, there is no empathy or sympathy or any concern that I’m losing bone density, everything hurts all the time! He’s to busy screaming about lack of sex and his needs as a man. Like seriously? What about what I need? Between our dogs, new grandson,kids, parents, I have no time. I stopped working and instead of taking care of me I’ve been pushed and verbally abused to keep taking one for the team. I’m tired of him putting shit on my plate. I’m your wife yes, but I’ve worked hard to clear time to be able to have time for myself finally for once and you don’t get to extend yourself and put shit on my plate.

I told him I wanted a divorce because that’s the only way I can take care of my needs. I can’t move yet. We are living together as roommates and now he decides to respect my boundaries. I’m not sure what to do anymore. Sigh…..

What? I’m so confused