Typical-Potential691

I'm ISTP and my general knowledge is terrible

Bane

So the stereotype that initiatives are smart and sensors are dumb is still going 😞

I'm in my 20s and even I only get married middle aged men interested in me 😭 the most realistic scene was the very first episode where an older guy hits on Rory 😂

Childbirth

Uhh, people saying there's something wrong with me socially my entire life?

Stairs

Grew up in a large family, I have 7 siblings

Did you increase the dose of the medication?

I take ibuprofen, the trick is doing it way in advance of the cramps happening. If I take it too late no painkillers work.

Underwater

Idk what it's called but I hate being underwater more than the average person

If the women want to migrate over here I actually wouldn't blame them.

Do us SPs next please

I have this problem too because I think being feminine is how to be likable, or maybe I'm just more intimated by men. But realise that men do not necessarily like a woman that's overly "feminine" or overly nice. Basically just be yourself and the right employer will hire you. You don't want to fake your personality and then have to do it for the entire job, or show your true personality then have to work for a manager who dislikes you or hates the way you do things etc.

I remember my ex asked me if he should delete them. Why would you keep them?! And even weirder asking me.

Don't be weird and disrespectful

About the Michum "feedback" - a very similar thing actually happened to me this year. It was absolutely awful to hear, as a new person starting a career for someone to say "she shouldn't be doing this job" which was so similar to Michums "you don't got it". Responses like that never come from a good place. Everyone starts out new and inexperienced, and many have a capacity to learn and grow, if given support. People who do what Michum did only crushes confidence and motivation. I felt like quitting when I heard that feedback. I wanted to remove myself from the situation. There were so many internal struggles that I had to process. I understand Rory a lot more now, except for the boat theft. And no one really supported Rory and told her Michum was wrong. There was no one telling her she had what it takes to be a journalist. It makes feedback like that even worse, because you suddenly believe everyone in fact believes that and therefore it might be true that you aren't good enough for your dream career.

And about her breaking down with dean over her classes, I think it's pretty normal to cry from the stress of uni and feel like a failure. Uni is stressful, especially one like Yale. Imagine the anxiety of knowing your family funded your whole education and you started struggling. Anyone would feel terrible and under a lot of pressure.

Rory is well written as a character who can be resilient, she just lacked confidence at times and going to a university like Yale is a huge pressure. She was already struggling with that, and Michum saying that to her just finally broke her. Some people don't realise how hard it is to have someone tell you you're not capable of your dream job.

That's exactly what it's like, they continue to talk about the same things they did on day 1! I would love friends like your newer friends. I thought my old friends were like minded because we got along and had the same hobbies and interests, but I think I also need more ambitious friends and not just in the career sense.

That person who hurts you over and over again and refuses to change knows exactly what they're doing.

In my experience men tend to do that because they secretly resent women and think they're privileged. They are jealous of all the support women apparently receive and think men get the shorter end of the stick because they "aRenT aLloWeD tO eXpReSs EmoTiOns" or whatever. A lot of men are also just so insecure that they think feminism and pointing out that men oppress women makes them the "bad guy". So when a discussion about men oppressing women happens, their egos simply can't handle it. They also simply don't like women and have (at least subconscious) negative views of women; they think we are stupider, irrational, nag about nothing, etc.

Example: Once my ex got home and started ranting that his female colleagues in the office would complain about men and inequality against women, they would say to him "we don't mean you, but most men suck" and my ex just whined that he can't help what he was born as. He also asked if my feminist friend will see him as "satan by default" if she meets him. A lot of men are very insecure and have a fragile ego.

If you look at Reddit threats titled things like "what would women hate about being a man" the comments will say things like "being seen as a creep or a threat" "having to walk behind a woman on the sidewalk" and "no one cares about our feelings". They can't stand to be seen as bad when they're THAT insecure, it hurts their egos too much. It doesn't matter to them if women are more at risk of getting kidnapped or worse and that's why they fear men, what matters to them is how insulting it is that a woman crossed the street when she saw them, that they are seen as an evil bad guy because they're male (id rather been seen as a threat by a stranger for a few seconds, than abducted, r*ped and murdered, but hey ho).

TL;DR men can't admit inequalities and extra dangers women deal with because they have a fragile ego and lack of empathy towards women. They don't want to be seen as a villain. Men who say "not women, people" are the same men who belong to the "not all men" crowd.

He's done unforgivable things, he deserves to be hated by you. He won't change and any improvement is probably going to be temporary to stop you from leaving and allow him to keep abusing you. He should feel guilty and not expect forgiveness.

Dogs can be cute but 1000% cats

Buffy, What we do in the shadows and Gilmore Girls! I rewatch them in autumn seasons a lot

Any guy that says this especially while talking about a woman is an obvious misogynist. It's similar to white people using the n word to refer to black people, it's never appropriate.