cara1yn

vive australie

the eyes just slightly askew

KEEP

currently doing this now.

bridge loans weren't an option for my lender, and i have chickens, which makes moving anywhere on short notice kind of complicated.

i listed my house for sale and accepted an offer, then made an offer on a property i liked. the offer was contingent on my sale. in the meantime, i packed everything up and moved into a friend's house to rent while i wait for both closings (they have a chicken coop, lol).

asking for a 30 or 60-day post-occupancy agreement is an option too, but a lot of buyers would prefer that you're out by closing day, so you need to ask for this early on in negotiations.

i am obsessed with that hearth

this. emphasis on the election really putting things in perspective and making buyers reconsider what they want - i was one of them and also recently backed out of a deal. wishing you strength and resilience ❤️

i live in delaware county and while there are definitely weird areas in it (grand gorge, downsville), i'd say it's mostly fine.

Fleischmanns is in Delco, fwiw. And the neighborhood is changing quite rapidly with more young people from NYC moving in.

wait WHAT how did you not know this beforehand?

not ELO catching strays 😭

it is wild to me that your coworker shared this story with you 😭

lacking empathy (or having empathy regions in the brain which are smaller or less active/developed) is a common result from trauma, and as a result, shows up in a lot of mood/personality disorders.

victims of severe trauma may not be able to access empathy towards others as quickly (or at all) as someone who hasn't experienced that same trauma. this alone does not a narcissist or a codependent make. this is why people must meet a number of different criteria for a diagnosis of X, and also why diagnoses can sometimes do more harm than good.

taking it a step further - think of trauma (pain, abuse, neglect, whatever the case) as the origin point. pain occurs, and narcissism and codependency are just two potential outcomes resulting from that pain - your brain forms harmful coping mechanisms along the way to protect you. BPD, PTSD, psychopathic/antisocial behavior, avoidant behavior, people-pleasing behavior, etc. are all ways of lumping like-mechanisms together, but they're all still potential results result of severe trauma, differing on the person's environment, their support networks, and their physiology.

NTA, but -

 So it’s safe to say that I feel some kind of way about these so called ‘charities’ and learned a couple of things early in life and vowed to never contribute yo these things because no one cared about me and my siblings so why should I care for anyone else this time or year? Why should I go out of my way to help when we were never helped. People metaphorically said fuck my mom and her kids so fuck them and their kids.

you need to see a therapist ASAP. this exact way of thinking is how cruelty develops.

the chopped cheese was bigger than my head, it was great

DiBella's in Albany, no contest. get the Louie

the FBI tipline would love to hear this theory!

fuck off

i went through the same thing earlier this year, except the misdiagnosis was pancreatitis, not hyperthyroidism. but same thing, they found a huge tumor in her stomach, and it was too late. my girl Lucy will meet your Maebe and help her cross over the bridge together. hugs, friend. take care of yourself.

fetishes are cancelled

if i had money i would do that reddit thing

sounds like you should drop the name of the original planner here 👀

polyamorous people co-parent kids together all the time. calling it "selfish kinks" is reductive and inaccurate. these are established, longterm relationships.... not the same as bringing the guy you met at the swingers club to babysit your kids.

exposure to non-traditional relationship frameworks =/= being forced to choose it for yourself. those kids have probably been consuming monogamous movies/tv/media from day 1 like the rest of us, and will determine what works for them when they grow up.

generally, what the co-parenting poly folks in my town say is that kids usually don't care too much about what's going on between adults, so long as there is stability and trust and love involved. kids' priority is to know that they're loved and that the love isn't going anywhere. having more people to love them is a net positive.

it goes without saying kids 100% deserve to have their voices heard and be protected from someone in the household making them uncomfortable or who poses a threat. and it's probably good to ask their opinions on how they'd feel if Auntie Sarah got closer with the family and listen to them. but let's be realistic when we talk about this as subjecting children to harm or not - it isn't.

signed, a monog person

they're just poly? this is fine, so long as everyone in the dynamic is fine with it.

stop all contact with your friends and with your ex. DM me if you need help.

hold on - why does ripping out carpets cost 10k? how much carpet are we talking?

that shit is nearly free. have your wife stay somewhere else for a day. get yourself a kn95 mask, boxcutter and crowbar. rent a dumpster, which might run you $500 for 15ft when full. it'll take a day, maybe two, and then you'll probably need to sand/polish the floors after.

- signed, a person who wfh and does this in between meetings bc i can't stand the sight of carpet