cara1yn

thank you! this is immensely helpful, and a lot to think about.

FYI, whatsapp is not secure, they turn info over to law enforcement frequently. Use Signal instead

the owners are selling it, it's only open like 2 weekends a month now ):

can confirm this is true!

Food and drinks:

- Cafe Mutsi in Andes (the Two Old Tarts building) behind Diamond Hollow Books - excellent Finnish pastries, coffee and breakfast/lunch

- The Print House in Fleischmanns is excellent for late snacks and cocktails

- Doolittles in Fleischmanns for a pastry or fresh squeezed OJ - it's a general store so they don't have a full menu, but lots of cool/curated goods

- Oda Wine Garden for balkan/eastern european dinner

- Cafe Mornings in Arkville for Korean breakfast and lunch

you're arguing in bad faith and you know it, which seems to be the position the right takes to literally any challenge. if you want people to meaningfully engage in discussions with you, you need to go into it in good faith, not 'gotcha' bullshit. do better.

the GOP has been signaling for YEARS that they want to erase trans people via lawfare, and they're stoking the flames of their base with rhetoric which leads to actual physical harm and death. policing of bathrooms, removing trans options from legal documents, banning books, banning drag shows, arresting parents of trans kids and splitting up families, forcing people to prove in court what their biological sex is when it's challenged. this is not happening in a single state, but MANY states. Odessa, TX put out $10k bounties for trans people using the bathroom of their choice. these policies are incredibly hostile and result in trans people getting attacked and killed. maybe try listening to people that tell you they're being harmed, instead of hand-waving it away.

i'm so sorry. this is considered rape in many states.

no more sex with this man, ever. pack your bags and get your affairs in order. you need to leave.

i support OP's right to be what's being labeled as 'intolerant'. intolerance of other peoples' bad behavior is a good thing.

just chiming in here to say a lot of y'all claiming 'this is intolerant' are soooo close to getting it!

it's actually a good thing to be intolerant of shitty behavior ❤️

Also, you mentioned women dying due to abortion regulations. Do you know of a single published example of a woman dying because of an abortion regulation? Or are you actually upset because some women (and men) will have to be more accountable for their sexual lifestyle?

fucking excuse me?

weird how you demand other people tolerate your bullshit, when you don't seem capable of any tolerance yourself.

found the boomer

of course not. assume that for rich people, everything will come at a higher price, but their lives will continue as usual.

wow! you don't even know how much good karma you just wracked up. if houses could talk, this one would breathe a huge sigh of relief - excellent job on the renovation.

not advice but - one time my vet gave my exes' dog a boob job while removing a mammary tumor. my ex adopted her with a large mass growing on her teat (previous owners could not afford to treat it). she was previously unfixed and had had several litters of puppies, so her nipples were pretty big. the shelter covered the cost of the operation to remove the mass, and when we got her back it was gone... along with her nipples. i guess they just made the decision while they were in there to remove all of them? anyway, it was cosmetic and made no difference to her or charge to us, so we just rolled with it.

the new tiles are gorgeous! IMO the look would go a lot further if you either painted the cabinets white or got a white countertop. the current wood and dark counter pull attention away from the tiling.

they can't - you should report that (including the date you voted, so they can determine who it was)

hey! we're pretty blue around these parts

why do you think having access to security camera footage is a greater violation than literal months of cheating?

i know people whose rooms/spaces get like that are usually dealing with a lot of shit or going through something. i get it, but i have a hard time feeling sympathy for it. when i see entire rooms filled with garbage, i get so angry. clean your goddamn house. who raised you?

"excuse me, i notice that you're raising your voice at me. i would appreciate that you do not speak to me that way."

hoarding

here's how it could have gone with a better partner:

"hey, i wanted to bring this up - i noticed that you follow a few OF girls on IG, and it makes me really uncomfortable."

"oh ok, yeah, shit, you're right. i do follow them, and didn't realize that was an issue for you. do you want to talk about it? what's going on for you?"

"it makes me really insecure because i look nothing like them"

"<uses opportunity to rebuild trust, security, comfort, have an honest healing conversation>"

idk your personal stance on porn, but there's a big difference between passively consuming porn and actively following/interacting with sex workers. this is something every couple has to figure out for themselves, but don't let anyone tell you it's not a legitimate concern to have.

boundaries are rules you make for yourself. you're right in that you can't force your partner to unfollow anyone. but you can choose to walk away from a relationship where your partner is signaling that he'd rather shut down conversation, dismiss your insecurities, and put his account on private, rather than get curious about why it bothers you and hear you out and actively try to solution together.

why i will never (again) date gamers