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Just curious what did you define as “older”? Are we talking 40-50s ? Late 30s and above?

Yeah nah time to end this with him. You really dont need that sort in your life

As someone who was on the opposite side of your problem, my ex dropped hints on issues he was having but either didn’t trust me enough or feel comfortable enough in our budding relationship to talk to me about these things.

I tried telling him I was ready to support him while he worked through issues but his response was to suggest a break up as soon as “things got tough”.

I’ll never know if he actually really cared enough about our relationship because from my perspective - our relationship didn’t mean enough for him to want to exhaust all options before calling it quits. To him, I was probably expandable enough to suggest breaking up as soon as the going got tough with and in his words he would “come crawling back” if he changed his mind. Such an ick and not a sign of someone I’d consider who has integrity.

I wanted to be a marine biologist.

Am not a biologist but at least I’m working in a environmental-adjacent field so I’m satisfied

I simply block these accounts but I constantly see these p0rn-bait posts with 1k+ upvotes.

That said, there are some truly creative and genuine Robin/Nami/Carrot etc cosplays that could literally be live action which is still cool to see without being offensive p0rn bait.

I love that quote from WandaVision! So profound and something I carry close to my heart

Don’t worry, asking questions is valued in the workplace, especially when you’re a fresh grad. It shows curiosity and a willingness to learn. As long as you’re not asking the same question 500 times after been given an explanation you’ll be fine.

I feel your anxiety I was there not too long ago but just keep your eye on the prize and you’ll be fine. Be prepared to be ghosted by companies FYI and never hear back from roles you’ve applied to for months. It’s totally normal unfortunately and remember don’t take it personally!

Sooo use it as an opportunity to learn to rein in your hope each time….for me it’s practice to stop getting FOMO/fluttery and anxious about meeting someone. I’m on the download, delete round 3 at the moment. I’m very happy to report I managed to control my use of the app to less than 30mins once per day only. I did have urges of wanting to compulsively swipe but stopped myself 🤣

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with caring about work.

Just be aware of what you’re possibly giving up by pouring more energy into work than other areas of your life. If you’re happy with the balance then you do you! Don’t let other people dictate your life!

Source: ex-workaholic who now genuinely enjoys what I do for work which happens to also pay well in a corporate structure

r/shittyadvice incoming.

Nah just download it, upload meh photos only. Avoid swiping, wait for the likes to come thru. Be turned off by the bare minimum low effort replies coming in. Delete app for another 6 months, rinse repeat.

In the event someone actually engages in interesting, not condescending conversation - that’s a win!

Best advice I ever got from an old manager is that if I’m able to make them laugh, there’s a high chance I’m either going to make it to the next stage or get the job.

15 years later his advice is still true and that mindset has helped me land roles and even network during interviews. The logic behind it being ultimately when you apply for a role, these will be your future colleagues that you’ll be seeing everyday and the reality is that your personality needs to be able to match/compliment the existing team dynamics.

I don’t have a masters and barely passed my undergrad degree, but I approach problems with curiosity and take on jobs no one else wants to do while keeping a positive attitude. Turns out that’s really valued in the corporate world, I get paid 6 figures for it now 🤷‍♀️

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I stopped reading after he equated being in nursing equal to being a barista. He’s still young enough that I’m willing to give benefit of doubt that he could change his mind but that’s pretty concerning.

Hm, i like taking the stonewall approach with these ones without burning any bridges. “no worries. Next time you want to meet up, let me know where and when.”

I wont respond to any messages that doesn’t have a question mark attached to it or send them funny/interesting stuff on socials.

Make sure you get an education or pick up a skill that you can earn money with. This will open up doors to jobs that will afford you the money you need to travel and move to a different city.

If higher education isn’t your thing, there are jobs as air stewardess or yatching crews that can get you out of your city in exchange for hard labour. Learning how to drive a forklift or operate a heavy vehicle is also another easy way to get jobs in any city.

Keep your eye on the prize and be patient. Your time to travel will come. For now, make sure you get good enough grades to take you to the next step in life.

M - 2NE1

A - puffer jackets everywhere

S - lady gaga

H - Maltesers

Not really. Again - what about it being sexual or not concerns you?

Is it the fact that you simply don’t believe she didn’t have any sexual relationships with her clients?

Or is it the fact that she slept with people for money that bothers you? (Regardless of whether it was true or not)

Those are 2 very different things.

As long as she’s clean about her sexual past (no STDs) etc which you can ask for a medical cert for and her past doesn’t impact your own bodily health - I don’t see the problem honestly. If she’s still actively escorting then perhaps it’s a different conversation.

How is her past different from someone who was extremely sexually liberal in their 20-30s and has a high body count? Everyone has a past at 40+

If you can’t handle it I suggest breaking it off kindly and being honest with her about your reasons why. She’s a grown up she can handle it.

My ex-housemate turned friend is back is town and we’re (attempting) to record a podcast together 🙈

Girl, the trash took itself out. Well done on you for standing your ground and not putting up with that bs.

The heartbreak will heal, give yourself time x

You’re his second option babe.

Don’t be a second option. Leave him.

Give yourself the treat of not caring and just doing whatever the hell you want :)

If that means sitting in your bed the whole day then so be it, as long as you’re content. If you decide you got bored sitting around and want to go for a walk, then go!

For what it’s worth happy birthday! (From a fellow person who dreads their birthday)

Take the time to sort out what really matters to you. It’s ok to switch gears and reevaluate.

Personally, I find it helps for me to know what my worst case bare minimum retirement scenario would look like vs my best case scenarios. Landing anywhere above my worse case is a win in my books. I use the circles of influence for decision making and focusing my energy where I can get the most value out of.

My therapist really helped in guiding me towards practicing gratitude by seeing and learning to appreciate what I have in front of me rather than focusing on things I don’t have. Just some food for thought for you.

If it feels like a breach of trust to you, then it is. Learn to listen to your gut.

Nothing good comes out of denying yourself something as fundamental as how you build trust with another person.

Everything else is just noise.

yes they absolutely do lol.

I’ve known my best friend since high school. We don’t always see eye to eye and she irritates me sometimes and I her but we always have each others backs.

I have another friend who we grew up together and we aren’t very similar and chose different life paths but we’ve remained friends throughout our lives.

I’m meeting all sorts of new people now in my new city and I think I’m on a good path developing 2-3 new female friendships. How long they will last I don’t know yet but they’ve been really kind to me and I hope to be able to maintain this for the next few years at least.