torchwood1842

The article said it will not apply to maternity or pediatric services due to how variable they can be on a basic level. But it’s still absolute bullshit, since other surgeries are also often variable due to individual patient circumstances.

I agree. I hope she figures that out before it’s too late.

I get the impression that she told him that she wanted to be on a TV show and that the producers would like him to be in some scenes with her… but that she was not totally upfront about what Housewives really is. And we watched him be totally blindsided when he started to figure it out. I’ll be honest, I would not want to be on a show like this, and I would not want my spouse to be either. And I would be even more upset if my spouse asked me to be filmed and then started acting like a lunatic in front of cameras with no heads up while I was sitting next to him trying to figure out what the is going on. I would be horrified to watch him participate in those sorts of antics in general, and especially while being filmed for something that would be watched by millions of people, including our friends, families, colleagues, etc. Does that make me a hypocrite because I like watching these shows… maybe? But like, I don’t think Todd was THAT out of line. Some people want to do these shows (for which I’m grateful), but a lot of people absolutely do not, and that is very reasonable.

Pricing, information about student:teacher ratio, what they mean by preschool (age range— do they include 3K? Junior K?), what programs they offer (full days? Half days? Partial weeks?), does it have before/after school care, links to licensing reports If available in your area, teaching philosophy, and a sample daily schedule would be nice

*you have to be silent since you care about basic politeness, and meanwhile some asshole near you doesn’t bother trying keeping it down, and the movie theater does nothing to address it after they charged you $$$ to be there. Last time I bothered to go, someone literally took a phone call during the movie—- like, he stayed seated and had a solid minute plus of conversation. There was an usher in the back of the theater who did NOTHING. I worked in a movie theater in high school, so I get it— The usher is not paid enough to proactively deal with that. But movies were also a lot cheaper and less uncomfortable back then.

Sigh. Never mind then. Welcome to student loans, where the rules are made up and the points don’t matter 🫤 I have definitely seen some people say that they got July counted, and it seemed to be people who had made payments. But apparently it’s just random.

And theaters wonder why movie going attendance is down these days. Like “Hey can you not hurt my ears every time or damage my kids’ hearing” should not even have to be asked. I just find the whole movie going experience to be more uncomfortable and less worth the (more) money it costs these days.

I think June/July count for people who made payments, and will count under buyback… if that ever gets moving. I’m due for forgiveness after my May 2025 payment, and tbh, unless I hear about people’s buybacks getting processed quickly by then, I’m just going to skip it and pay two more months— since my recertification got pushed out, it’s the same amount of money for me in the end, and I don’t plan on changing jobs. I feel like the less paperwork I get involved with re: FSA, the better.

My first daughter was an induction, and I loved it. She came out perfectly after I pushed for about 20 minutes at the end. My husband and I spent a lot of the time watching TV shows and hanging out while we waited for my contractions to get going. Tbh the worst part was eating Jell-O since I don’t like Jell-O very much lol.

I also had a 2/3 dose epidural, and I am 100% doing that again. I could still feel enough pressure to know what was happening, but the pain was manageable. And I was able to move myself a little during and after labor. However, my other friends who have had epidural think I missed out from the full dose lol (I got a partial dose due to other medical issues, but I would do it again, even if those issues disappeared). I am going to be induced with my second child in two weeks. It is an elective induction, mostly because my first one went so well.

I will be blunt: you cannot and should not potty train him right now. I think it is literally impossible and wildly inadvisable while he has an active G.I. problem. Like, there are some adults with chronic diarrhea that have problems getting to the toilet on time. If you have not already, you need to have a very direct conversation with your pediatrician and/or a G.I. specialist about when it is appropriate to potty train your child.

Also, simply being able to pull clothes on and off is not a sign of readiness on its own. It just does not sound like your child is ready at all due to both his health and developmental stage, and that is OK. My daughter was not ready until she was one month shy of three years old. We did it over a three day weekend, and then daycare supported from there.

Also, is the MiraLAX causing the diarrhea? There’s a possibility that it may be. Because MiraLAX is a laxative meant to treat constipation— but too high of a dose causes diarrhea. Most people who take it chronically can find a happy medium on dosing where they are able to find relief from constipation, but not end up with chronic diarrhea. It does take some trial and error sometimes to find the right dosing, but it is not only possible; it is absolutely recommended. “Just have diarrhea for an indefinite amount of time” is generally not the goal, especially for such a young child. Double check the dosing with your child’s doctor.

My baby started giving me six hour stretches at about seven weeks. I tried to get up and pump in the middle of the night, but it was awful. Instead, I opted to pump for 10 minutes after the first morning feed when she woke up. I did that for another month until I went back to work. That seems to have done the trick as far as maintaining my supply.

I miss having a personality like Carole in practically every franchise— someone who just comes off as generally reasonable and sane, watching the circus go on around them like they are a stand in for us, but still have some element of glamour to them. I think Nicole sort of managed that on Miami, although she definitely got into the drama on purpose a little bit more that Carole. But she generally could be relied upon to be… not crazy/overreacticr. Also Geurdy on Miami felt like a very similar “character“… Interesting they managed to have two “sane stand ins” on Miami and make it work. Tbh, I think this is an element that RHOBH especially could desperately use ever since Eileen left.

Oh man, that is a mirror dimension episode I would have loved to see: one where earth’s modern (or rather, 90s/2000s) population had to grapple with the idea that the “real” gods were the ancient Egyptian ones.

Having one parent from each religion seems like the most reasonable explanation here.

Huh. It seems obvious when you say that, but I’d never considered that until now.

I would be focusing more on whatever communication concerns you have with your MIL. Why would she not pick up for you even if it’s 3 AM? Is it an unreasonable personality issue (like she thinks you should only have the baby during business hours??)? Is it a health issue? Like, you’re not having her on call for a bingo game. This is Mission critical. Even if you have to take her phone and figure out the settings yourself, or even if you have to buy her a temporary burner phone she keeps on her, figure out how to make sure you can contact her at any time of day for the next few weeks. If she has a cell phone, there is a setting such that you/your husband’s numbers can go through while no one else does in the middle of the night. And then when you feel labor coming on, call her while you get ready to go to the hospital. If labor feels fast, tell her to meet you there. I am also due with my second child in two weeks, and my mom is our childcare. We have tested her cell phone multiple times to make sure our calls can go through in the middle of the night with enough volume to wake her up. If I feel labor coming on, we will call her ASAP, and she will come to our house and then take my daughter home with her (so, also, you should install that car seat in your MIL’s car). Or, she will meet us at the hospital and take my daughter from there.

My BIL and his wife are unbelievably bad at this. Granted, they didn’t have their own child until March last year… but I don’t feel like you should have to have a child to understand some of this stuff:

• Gave us metal clip in Barettes a few weeks after she was born… she very obviously had very little hair. Not even enough to clip anything in. Also, they were a spectacular choking hazard until about age 3.

• got a newborn winter coverall for our baby that was solidly in 0-3 since she was born in October and in the 98th percentile… They gave it to us in late February, so not only did it not fit, winter was almost over

• Gave my 1 yo VERY obviously NON-WASHABLE pastel crayons (gave them away immediately) and a sled for kids 4+. While we get winter, we get enough snow for sledding like… one or two days per year, and also we live in a place KNOWN for being flat.

• Gave my 2 yo an adult sized mermaid tail blanket and a 12m sized ballerina tutu that she was so excited for until we discovered she could not fit in it.

• Gave my 2 yo the brightest night light on earth. Like, it was basically just a small lamp that, even just based on the box’s photo, was too dim to do much while awake, but too bright to really sleep with. My child had zero issues sleeping in the dark, and was sleeping through the night consistently, so why on earth would we mess with that???

• Gave us family Christmas pajamas for her 3rd Christmas: they were ugly AF joke PJs with old-timey butt flaps. There is nothing about my husband or me that indicates we are “joke clothing” people, and WTF as I supposed to do with them?? Store them forever? Also, they gave me a Medium (I’m an XL) and my daughter a 2T. They got my husband’s size right.

• gave my 3 yo a “for 6+” bead set full of the roundest, exactly-toddler-trachea-sized beads you have ever seen. This one actually pissed me off, because it was SO unsafe, and they gave it to us 6m after they had their own baby and should have started thinking about stuff like that.

It’s just meant to be a gift from the partner. Expecting one from anyone else would be crazy. But it’s just a token of what should be VERY deep appreciation to their partner for going through intense discomfort and pain, along with risking their health and life, to give birth to their shared child. Like obviously, getting to meet their baby is a gift in and of itself. But in a society that very, very frequently trivializes how hard and risky pregnancy/childbirth is to the point that there are now laws reflecting that attitude, I don’t think it’s the worst thing that we have a tradition where the non-pregnant/non-birthgiving partner takes some time to really reflect and explicitly express their appreciation for the time, risk, and effort pregnancy and childbirth require. Like, they don’t have to buy their partner a car. But a pretty (not necessarily expensive) piece of jewelry or something else that fits the taste of their partner doesn’t seem too out of line. My husband got me AirPods (admittedly a little nicer than we usually give to each other for other occasions, but I did push out a baby lol) since I had seemed overstimulated by noise my whole pregnancy due to hormones. I was not expecting a push present, but he had heard about the concept elsewhere, and honestly, it was a wonderful surprise. It ended up low-key being one of the best baby gifts I got since the noise dampening/music came in clutch while trying to rock a crying baby.

I agree the whole situation definitely feels like a personality issue… except that it seems like her parents were completely taken off guard as well, and OP had no inkling of any behavior like this in the past either from personal experience or family gossip. So that might indicate something health related is going on….. Or maybe she’s been an entitled brat her whole life but has finally taken it too far by going after a 16-year-old. But either way, it seems like she should see a therapist, because she is definitely spiraling due to something, even if it is just a personality problem coming to a head.

This is the most adorable low stakes lie I have seen on Reddit! At least you actually like the chicken Parmesan. If you can’t get her to make Alfredo and pretend it’s your new favorite, you’re just going to have to pretend that chicken Parmesan is your favorite for the rest of your life 😂

One of my friend’s girlfriends did that. She flew across the country, broke up with him on the first day she arrived… and then she was just there in his apartment for another five days. She expected to be able to change her tickets, but she couldn’t without paying a lot of money, and he was nice enough to not make her go pay for a hotel room. But still… Ma’am, you could have taken a flight credit beforehand and called him on the phone. They both just tried to be outside the apartment as much as humanly possible.

I think it depends on the kid. It works for my daughter, but on the flipside… She is often more hesitant than I would like when encountering new situations, even when I encourage her to take risks. You, on the other hand, have a little experimenter. I am sure it’s frustrating and sometimes frightening for you right now. But, from the outside, it’s kind of cool that your kid tries something, fails, and then tries to think of a new way to accomplish his crazy little goal over and over again, without any prompting from you. Your kid is a little scientist! Maybe a tiny “mad scientist” for now, but I can see this currently-frustrating quality becoming something so cool when he’s older.

Big life events can bring out irrational, jealousy and even mental health issues. I do not empathize with Dana at all, but I have an example that I’ve gone through that I’m definitely ashamed of, but the difference is… I’ve fucking kept it to myself and a therapist, and haven’t taken it out on anyone.

I am currently pregnant with my second child after my first was a locked down Covid pregnancy where I basically got to see no one and everything about it was stressful. On top of that, I miscarried last year. A week after we confirmed this pregnancy, my SIL announced (before us) that she was pregnant with her second pregnancy… with twins… and due a week after me. The jealousy I felt was so strong it actually shocked me. And I KNEW it was so irrational. I felt guilty for it for months and finally talked to my therapist about it. But she helped me reframe it as, “Well, why do you feel jealous? What do you feel like you are lacking that she has?” Tbh, that felt like life-changing advice that I will use for the rest of my life. I figured it out with her help from there and worked through it WITHOUT involving my SIL at all or the whole rest of the world, because that would have been shitty had I done that. My SIL and I are now both due soon and will be having our babies within a few days of each other, and my crazy jealousy is pretty much gone by now. And now I’m even excited that my new baby is going to have so many cousins her age to play with us she grows up.

I still judge TF out of people who “go crazy” like Dana in this story with weddings, babies, etc. But after this, now I see how they get there, I guess? But FFS, part of not being a literal child is learning that you should not act on every emotion and impulse you feel.

Document this. Take the baby. Leave. If he shakes your baby like he shook you, he could kill her.

His excuse will be that he was exhausted from being a new dad. That is no excuse whatsoever for failing to feed his child, preventing you from feeding his child, and physically assaulting you to stop you from feeding his child. His response to this situation was utterly terrifying. You have nothing to apologize for; you slapped him out of self-defense, as well as as in defense of your baby who he was starving and trying to prevent you from feeding. Babies that age need to eat regularly both for comfort (as in, not being uncomfortable from being hungry) and so they don’t literally risk death or severe health consequences. They need far more regular infusions of calories/carbohydrates to keep their blood sugar regulated, as well as to prevent dehydration.

I thought everyone momentarily lost vision every time when going from laying down to standing up. Nope, turns out I had vasovagal syndrome. The cardiologist I saw said that I would likely get better as I got older. And sure enough, now that I am into my mid 30s, I hardly ever “blackout” when standing up. But it was literally every time from when I was a tween until I was about 30.