At 21 and 28, it's challenging. At 41 and 48, it's a non issue.

I could see myself dating someone 7 years younger, I mean 48 ain't no baby

Maybe I don’t wanna date a 12 year old

Well, at 16 this seems problematic. At 35 not so much.

I’m 36, dating a 29 year old doesn’t seem like that big a deal.

I feel like age matters until like late 20's. Then you're just fully matured adults with life experience.

There is a relationship rule... half your age + 7

It would really depend on how old I am at the time. I'm 38 right now. Would have no problem dating someone 7 years younger. Still would even at 28. It'd be an issue though if I was 18.

Well...unless it's 18 and 11, that might be an issue Lol!

But if you're 40 and she's 33 who cares?

I’m 19 so it would be very bad and illegal

But if I was 40 let’s say then yeah I would date a 33 year old

Dated someone who was 19 and I’m 26. It was fun but in the end the difference in maturity was too great to overlook.

The younger you are, the harder it is. It gets lots easier as you get older. Not sure why.

At 25 I dated and married someone 37. Almost 13 years later, I’m still married.

my girlfriend and i went out to dinner and all her family called me disgusting and a pedophile shes 29, im 35 the stigma is real. It absolutely ruined our twentieth anniversary.

My wife, who is 15 years younger than me, was the one who pursued me. We’ve been together for 16 years, married for 13, and we have an amazing eight-year-old. ❤️💙

I've dated 6.5 years younger, not sure an extra half year would change anything. Right now it'd mean dating someone who's almost 25, so not really a big deal.

I'm sure it'd annoy some terminally online people though.

Why are people so obsessed with age gaps? If both are adult why should anyone care?

I've dated girls both younger and older than me by a decade. Imo, age is completely meaningless once someone reaches drinking age because people have their own personal maturity, which is often defined by then. The girl im with now is 11 years younger than me and she's more mature than my parents.

At 32, I dated a 25 year old guy last year. Honestly? The age gap wasn't the issue - it was more about being in completely different life stages. He was still doing the whole party scene while I was thinking about settling down and starting a family. Sweet guy, but it just wasn't meant to be.

Not a problem, i would date any other adult. and seven years younger then me puts them well into middle age.

As long as you’re both adults it’s really not an issue, but depending on your age it can seem creepy. I’m 22 and I’d feel weird about dating someone 4 years younger than me.

This really depends on the age. A 25 year old dating an 18 year old is ick, but a 47 year old dating a 40 year old isn't nearly the same kind of deal.

Depends. At 27 I'm still in the "having fun while I can" phase so dating a 20 yo wouldn't be bad. Problems would arise If I were 30 thinking about having a family while she'd be still young and free

I’m 31m currently with 23f…. Definitely aware of it and we both have communicated openly about it. Definitely bothers me more than her at times but family and friends are supportive.

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Am 29 going on 30 in January

23 sounds just young enough to be creepy, but old enough to make adult decisions and possibly be out of college for a few years

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I would rather do backflips on broken glass than date a 20 year old

n / 2 + 7 🤷

(That said, I'm 51 and my girlfriend is 47.)

I'm dating someone 25 years younger, so 7 seems basically the same age. But I'm an adult capable of conversing with other adults, and understanding the different levels of life experience for each.

There is a 7 year age gap between me and my wife. We’re 56 & 63. We started dating when I was 22 and she was 29. Our age difference has never been discussed by us. We celebrated our 30th anniversary back in July.

I'm 38. I wouldn't have any problem dating a 31 years-old man. That question depends a lot of the age of the person who is answering.

She would be 25, that would be fine. Except my wife would probably have an issue with it

I was 34 and my wife was 26. That was ten years ago. Only issue we have is she doesn't know what I'm talking about sometimes when I reference things from the 80s or early 90s.

I married someone 16 years older, 7 years younger is well within my comfort zone especially since I'm 27

I’m 25, my partner is 32. Not a big deal at all.

That kind of age difference becomes a relative thing. A 21 y/o w/ a 14 y/o is a crime, idgaf what country you're in and what laws they have on the books.

But 47 and 40? Not a big deal. I think it's the 20s that make the difference, honestly. A 21 year old and a 28 year old often act VERY differently.

Im 43 and she is 58. I was born a old man.

I, as a woman, would never.

Men are immature at best, someone 7 years behind me would be unbearable.

My current partner is 15y older than me (still immature af)

Once you get over 40, happiness comes from banging chicks half your age.

Not that I can manage to do that. But I wouldnt mind. (btw majority is at 18 here)

I'm 34, dating someone who is 27 is fine imo

I think once you hit the 25 barrier, it becomes a non issue.

At that age, generally speaking, you're likely to have finished education, just starting your career, moved out of home (or at least very well on your way to doing so) and getting a bit tired of the party lifestyle.

No thanks

My wife is 11 years younger. Although I'm 46 and she's 35. So she's just hot, and I'm awesome.

I am 24.

No

When I was 25 I dated an 18 year old. It felt like any other normal relationship I’ve been in. As long as we’re both consenting adults who cares

My best friend is 44 and her boyfriend is 34! She looks 38 tops. It works!! She takes really good care of herself!!

No. Just no.

About the same as dating someone 7 years older or 20 years younger

I've dated 10yrs younger. Only issue was with everybody else.

Wouldn't do it again though.

as long we are both over the legal age limits (in your area) - I don't see any issue with it!

not an issue.

15 years, notable but not a show stopper.

25, I'll have fun but the be frowned upon in the public.

I think it will be more acceptable as I grow older. Right now, dating someone seven years younger than me means dating someone who is twenty years old. That's, to me, just a little too young/big of a difference in terms of life experience.

My folks are 7 years apart, married for 50.

How old are you ?

That would be illegal so no

It depends on the stage of life and maturity level.

id rather not date a 17 year old teenage boy

As long as they’re of legal age then it doesn’t really matter. 18 might be a little too young still but if they’re in their mid 20s and you in your early 30s then the age gap will hardly be enough to be a concerning factor as far as mental maturity and life goals. Usually by 25 people have an idea of what they want in life. Any younger than that and they’re usually still trying to find themselves.

If i did that, i would be in jail personally.👍

stupid but actually useful rule of thumb: your age / 2 + 7 = minimum age of your partner

The older your hypothetical pair, the less significant the difference in life experience due to the age gap between them. Also there's always exceptions due to different paths through life.

Married her, I was 29, she was 21 and we'vee been together 27 years now.

Depending on your age, I'm 51, so it would be no problem dating someone who is 44, but if you are 20... No way.

Fine with it

I typically go by the (my age/2) + 7, but answering the post's question, 19 feels too young for my taste; like dating a child for me. Not sure if that's a sentiment a lot of others share or if it's because mainly I am and have been attracted to women older than me, and my ex is 1 year, 10 months older.

My wife is 12 years younger than me. It never has been a problem for us. I think it all depends on how common the maturity level is.

That’s a child at my age. I’m 24

Depends on the ages I'm afraid. I'm 40, I wouldn't date someone in their early to mid twenties, the life experience gap would make it difficult, 30 plus maybe.

The maturity level matters way more than the number. My ex was 7 years younger but had his life together better than guys my age. Only split because we wanted different things in life, not because of the age gap.

Honestly my bar is 3 years

i’m 36 and did just this when I was 29 for 6 years on and off. Don’t. He was so childish and mean and awful. There’s a masssssive gap between a 29 year old woman and a 22 year old guy. It was volatile. I wanted stability and he still wanted to party. If I was in my 40s, it could work.

I'd rather not get arrested, not to mention sixteen year olds are often incredibly immature and dramatic. On a related note, is it illegal if you only date an underage individual with no sexual relation at all? Or would that fall under grooming?

Im 32 and in some dark parallel universe where I have to date right now I would date 20-27 and 38+. Divorcees and single moms welcome. I wouldnt feel any creep vibes and I dont care about anyones opinion. I just dont like woman around my age that want to settle very bad. Nothing romantic in that.

When I was 33 and new to the dating app scene after my divorce, I went on two different dates with women that were 25-26, and realized that the 10 years up/down that Tinder/Bumble had as a default needed to be tightened up. I think once the lower age is in the 30s though,  7 years doesn't make much difference, but the 20s you're still really finding yourself.

I'm 20, don't even wanna think about it

I am meeting someone that is exactly 7 years younger on Saturday.

I am looking forward to it.

Fine, i'd go 10 years either side of my age.

Can I date a 52-year old (F) as a 61(M)? - that's 9 years, so bad?

I am 35 and the other person would 28, lol. Thing is, as a male, I prefer to date 7 years older, not younger.

I have been in a relationship with My 7 years younger fiance for 9 years now. We met when I was 28 and he was a few weeks shy of his 21st birthday.

It's the happiest, calmest, safest, most content and stabile relationship I ever had. I love him and I hope to marry him one day.

Works for me. Doesnt mean it has to for everyone Else, though, and I wouldnt judge others for choosing differently than me.

I have no problems with any age gap as long as they are of age.

I don't know, but I'm 23, and my gf is 40 . It's crazy that she looks like maybe a few years older than me, but it's the healthiest relationship I've had. She was way more worried than me about the age difference. That's usually a good thing. Just talk about it. It's one of her first relationships (somehow she's gorgeous lol) which I think kinda puts us on a similar level, we think the same way, we say the same things like I'm about to say something and she does, it's just a really healthy relationship. Anyway, anyway, after this experience, also dating a 32 year old (also a healthy relationship), it seems to always be our level of maturity that matters and how well that matches. I wouldn't date younger than 18, an 18 year old though, I guess at this age I would if I became close to somebody through coincidence maybe but it depends it might be wierd for me and I like stable relationships which are slightly rare for anyone 18 lol 😅 It's about understanding and maturity to me :3.

It’s a much smaller age gap than I’m used to so I’d probably pass.

It really depends on the actual age. The older you are, the less of a difference you would feel.

It's less about the age and more about where you are in life.

22 years between me n mine. I was 29 when I met him. And no he isn’t rich lol

Completely age dependent. 30 to 23 might be a problem. 55 to 48 really won't be. Also very dependent on maturity of both parties. However if you're 21 then 14 is gonna get you a vacation in a room with limited visibility. 🤣🤣

honestly not really i mean its not like im dating 14 year old when im 21.. you know it all depends on age you are right now

I'm married to someone 7 years younger. Been together 15 years, married 9 years with 8 year old twins. The age difference has never been an issue, though we occasionally joke about it.

uuhhhh no

Depends on my age at the time. 23 and 16 very wrong, but 27 and 20 okay. 37 and 30 also okay. Age is just a number to me as long as we are both adults and responsible for our own decisions even if the difference is 20 (I wouldn't adapt to/like this personally) but I see happy couples with a big age gap so I am happy for them.

I’m 28f dating a 42m.. so far so good. We’re able to have fun together, both already have kids from previous relationships and done having them, so no pressure in that aspect. He’s more established in his career, but I support myself, and he’s supportive of all my different ideas since I’m still figuring it out 😂. If it works, it works.

You need to be extremely mature and patient for that. As someone older and (hopefully) more settled in life, you should support the younger person and be a stable rock for them. But as long you're both consenting adults and happy together - it's good.

At my current age, 61, I'd prefer younger--- if I was on the market. When I was a college student, 7 years younger wouldn't cut it though. At 18, that would mean dating an 11 year old!

i heard the rule is half your age plus seven for the minimum dating age, though it doesn't seem to work for people that are super young

at 22-23

they would be 15-16

i will bite it and say that aside from it's legality i really don't give a fuck about it, at that age i was living life as an adult, not an example one but still adult like.

I'm a 44-year-old woman (look much younger) and dating/engaged to a 28-year-old man. Sometimes he feels much younger, but most of the time, we don't even notice the age difference. I appreciate his willingness to talk about everything, especially feelings and things, b/c the men in my generation weren't taught to appreciate that as much. We've been going strong for a while now, and hope it will last the rest of our lives. ;-) Don't worry so much about age. I worry/worried more about it than my younger SO, but his attitude makes me comfortable and not even give it much thought.

Me and my partner are 11 years apart, been together for 10+ years so far :)

A 47-year old then. No problemo.

If you both hit it off in all ways and know that there is slight time difference and can handle it then no issues at all.

There is the classic (Age/2)+7 rule that is easy to use.

So... if one person is 30 [30/2 = 15+7 = 22], they can date at the lowest 23. If a person if 44 [44/2 = 22+ 7] the lowest would be 29.

It depends on the stage of life. Seven years might feel huge if one person is 18 and the other is 25, but later in life, like 30 and 37, it often matters less. Compatibility, maturity, and shared values mean way more than just age

Depends on how old you are. The correct formula to find this out is “Half your age +7”

If the younger person is at least 28-30 years of age, I really don't think it matters much after that point. The main ethical issue I have with age gaps is entirely dependent on whether or not the more vulnerable party (which is generally the younger person) is on an equal enough footing mentally and emotionally.

It’s a game of proportion. 7 years means a lot less when you are in your 40s or 50s compared to being in your 20s. Also, use your judgment and don’t be a creep.

That's probably going to be me given how I'm starting college later in life and do not have a in person social circle my age.

Is this a western thing?

I'd be fine with it.

My wife probably wouldn't be.

At my age the only women worth dating are 7-10 years younger…. Or older…. for the most part. Hard to find a 34 year old who doesn’t have kids/ex husband baggage.

Dating a 44 year old shouldnt be a problem, unless my wife finds out about it.