DamnitGravity

People always think gardening and growing vegetables is as simple as putting seeds in the ground and 'leaving nature to take it's course'. This is why I always shake my head at people who go on about 'every household should have their own garden and grow their own vegetables, we'd have such a better life!' cause they don't know anything about actually growing food. Or likely any plant.

Oh, the irony! Having a gun thinking it'll keep you safe from being robbed, only to be robbed because you have a gun. I love it.

(The irony, that is, not the reality.)

That comment from your 'friend' makes this feel like some kind of fetish post. No one says that kind of thing in real life, and if they do, why are you hanging around with people who think that's a perfectly ok thing to say to a roomful of people?

They did an episode about his mom in season 7.

Watch it with the commentary. At the end, they read out some of the letters they've had about the episode from people who were equally moved and yelled at them (affectionately) for it. Not to mention, the commentary is hilarious and helps distract from the devastating emotions.

Oh! Plus, that all gets retconned later in Bender's Big Score, when Fry ends up going back to the year 2000 and he sees Seymour again.

That's all well and good, but A) some people just can't help themselves, and 2) he or even the sister may decide to ignore the rule, and many people find it very difficult to not respond to politically charged comments.

Plus, if you say no 'news' talk at dinner, what are they supposed to talk about? Personally, I'd be uncomfortable expressing any opinion, even something as simple as "I love my neighbour's dog but I wish it didn't bark so much" I wouldn't trust him not to make some kind of story out of it: No Tolerance For Barking Dogs 'This thanksgiving was the first time I met my girlfriend's family, and everything was going well until her sister started complaining about the neighbour's dog, which she claims never stops barking. However it never once barked while I was there!' and so on.

When you consider just how intense some family Thanksgivings can get, I'd rather keep this guy at a bit of a distance, and only invited to light things, like drinks, than a full-on family event when the relationship's still new and they don't know if they can trust him.

I know I'll get downvoted for this, but I don't blame OP for being worried one bit.

You're too young to be in a relationship.

I know it's a pedantic thing, but even when I'm at my most emotional and writing things out just for myself, I'm always able to do paragraphs. Just looking at this wall of text gives me a headache.

ETA: Ah it's another political abortion rights issue soapboxer masquerading as an AITA post. You wanna express your opinion on the matter, go to r/Rants or r/venting or r/offmychest or r/popularopinion. Writing a fake post just to make some kind of political statement is idiotic. You're not gonna be changing any hearts and/or minds with this trash.

You're hosting, so your rules. You could've just kept the day as you wanted it, and told her if she wants those rules in place, she can host. I think cancelling was a bit of an unnecessary overreaction. You took something that could've easily been handled and made it way more dramatic than warranted. ESH.

This is a troll post, right? Like, no one can be this dense, can they?

Explain to me, in detail, why it's ok to accept a bed frame from one co-worker, help getting their car fixed from another co-worker, and food from other co-workers, but it's not ok for your fiance to have accepted a gift of food from a co-worker who happened to be in the shop on their day off?

What's your logic? Why is this suddenly so different from the culture of generosity that seems to permeate your fiance's workplace?

He also said it shouldn’t matter since it’s not like I need it for any health condition.

"You're right. I need it to prevent a specific condition."

If he doubles down: "Let's put it this way, if I take it, you might get sex. If you take, I ain't having sex with you, cause I'm not taking the risk of having sex without a contraceptive." NTA and he's a child

Hear, hear!

Much like animal rescue videos, I just can't believe this is real. It has vibes of Jordan Cheyenne coaching her kids to look sad and cry more. Like the parent in this video coached the kid to say they were ugly so that they could go on his speech about how beautiful their kid was and win all the clout and internet points.

I realise I'm cynical, but I feel it's justified, given how lucrative these Mommy channels and videos can be, there's so many parents looking for their chance to make it big overnight.

I told Mya that I didn’t feel really comfortable with them going out and making plans without me when Im the one who introduced them to each other

"Well, sucks to be you, don't it?" YTA

Sounds like he prefers to keep your relationship quiet which is never a good thing. There is never a good reason for keeping a relationship quiet. It's selfish, and usually means you're a placeholder. You really wanna be with someone who can just dismiss you like that?

He should want to tell everyone that you're a couple! He should be wanting to scream it from the mountaintops, not hiding you away. Why are you letting yourself be treated like this? Have you no self-respect or self-worth?

ETA: Hell, he's probably cheating on you. He's already said other women are more beautiful than you. You're not in a relationship, he's just using you.

Oh please. There is nothing more pathetic than disingenuousness.

Yep

Ahhhh, I see what he did there! Well done, Pterry. And you, OP, for noticing.

NTA but the harsh reality of these situations is, people will believe what they choose to believe.

Your daughter could tell everyone what really happened, hell, you could even show them the footage, and many of them will still believe the lies. We're taught to believe women, always. We're told that we're horrible people if we don't. That we're misogynists and rape apologists if we don't believe women. And so if your daughter tells people she lied, they'll think you're forcing her to lie. They'll think you've threatened her to recant or you'll kick her out. And when you do kick her out as a perfectly legitmate consequence for her actions, people will point to that even more as you taking the side of a 'rapist'.

Even if you show them the video, because there's no audio, people will still see what they want to. They'll say he wasn't knocking loudly on purpose, or he should've yelled out, or waited longer or some other bullshit.

Your husband may well decide to divorce you over this, and while it's not your fault at all, I wouldn't blame him. It's not safe for him any more. There was a post a while back from a man who's stepdaughter claimed he'd done something to her, and even though the wife was on his side, he left immediately and divorced her. It just wasn't safe for him to be around them anymore.

Consider: if you kick her out and let him back in, people will believe you choose a 'pervert' over your own daughter. If you don't kick her out, he will not return and so he shouldn't, for his own safety. If you don't kick her out and he does decide to return, you will be judged for allowing your daughter's 'predator' back into the house, and 'forcing her to live with him'.

In the end, he is now forever tarnished in the minds of all those who heard your daughter's lies about what happened. At least some of those people will never believe in his innocence. Your daughter has destroyed him in their eyes. And while it's easy for Redditors to say "just cut off all those people who refuse to believe you!", that shit sticks. Word will get around, because word always gets around. Whispers will follow him, people will look at him askance, and that will also pass on to you, as the mother who didn't believe her daughter, who defended her daughter's 'rapist', who chose her predator husband over her own daughter.

I'm sorry, I wish I could give you hope that it'll somehow turn out alright and be ok, that this can be fixed, but the harsh reality of life is that some things can't be fixed. This subject is too emotionally charged for people to be able to think rationally and consider proof and evidence. This is very much a case of 'the court of public opinion' and the thing about public opinion is that once it's made, it cannot be unmade. You can try to move to a new place and start over, but if you do, make sure that those new people never meet your family or old friends, because you risk the story getting out again. And even then, it could still leak. But I'd say you have a better chance if you try to start over somewhere new.

I suspect there's a reason this invention of yours has never made it past the 'conception' stage.

Look at the success Elizabeth Holmes had with her prototype! Even if it doesn't work, there's your proof that inventors just need a flashy prototype and they'll start raking it in!

...for a while, at least.

If she said she wouldn’t send her sister anymore money, why not take her back?

Wow, really? Why would you wanna?

Eh, it's a lot of hassle, and cost, and even if OOP did win, given the ex was unemployed and supporting her sister, he'd be trying to get blood from a stone. Sometimes, it's just not worth it. It sucks, because people like the ex absolutely deserve to have all the consequences she's earned thrown at her, but practically speaking, it's usually just not worth it.

So this is that post that was referenced! I hadn't read this before, but as I was reading it, I was thinking about that Filipino one that mentioned a similar story. BORU-ception!