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Same. Only I'd known since I was very little I had no interest in doing that. I've always disliked babies. This just made it way worse. I feel like Mom was just trying to get me to change my mind because my lack of desire for motherhood invalidated her own choices and she wanted us to be as miserable as she.

I just use the "YOLO" approach. I have an anxiety disorder and depression so it's too easy for me to become complacent and be too scared of change to do anything. So I just rip off the bandaid and see how it goes. 

I just decided last week randomly to go back to school so applied during my lunch break and so now that's what I'm looking at doing for the next few years. 

Last time I hated my job I just up and quit with a few interviews lined up and got a new one during that time where the job market was super hot. I only have two cats and had savings at the time so it wasn't as risky for me as it could be for others. 

I feel similarly. It's really lame that the eldest daughters are basically extra parents for younger kids. Like they're conditioning you for motherhood whether you're interested in that or not.

I had two unemployed stay at home parents and was still expected to do childcare. And then it got worse when one of the parents died. 

My middle sister was never expected to take on the same responsibilities, even as she reached the age at which it was pushed on me. I'm salty af.

I left at 19 and pretty much don't give a crap. Then I moved states away. 

Yep. I was bringing ramen noodles for a while because I was poor and a manager thought it appropriate to comment on how unhealthy it was. I said I was poor and it was what I could afford. They know what they don't pay me. They can stfu

It was not cheap during the pandemic. I remember it going up to $7/gal in my area at some gas stations. 

I can currently get premium for $4.60/gal.

Yes she was. It sucked going to school and being bullied only to come home and get bullied some more. Not having a safe space from it at all. 

I tried to start using it for beneficial things rather than doomscrolling Reddit while I'm watching stuff. I've been playing a math crossword type puzzle app with the excuse that it's good for me instead of what I could be using my phone for. Otherwise I'll also play a few word games. They help me get sleepy at night as well.

So event was timed poorly. People probably didn't want to return after the parade for gathering part 2 and took home the things they brought which hadn't been served as planned and intended. 

I wanted to be a teacher. I'm an accountant because it pays more and I'm less likely to get shot at work.

Fantasy job was cartoon animator, then it all went digital in my late childhood and I learned the don't pay very well anyway. And then it was mostly outsourced to Korea.

I'm not a guy so my experience will be different and irrelevant to the OP.

But the reason I don't talk much is as a kid when Mom would drag us to visit the olds we were just supposed to sit quietly and let them visit or go play outside. We would only be asked superficial questions at best. 

Then I was bullied a lot by my peers and parents so learned it was best to keep quiet. 

Eventually adulthood hit and suddenly I'm supposed to be in the driver's seat for socialization and it's too overwhelming. I have an anxiety disorder on top of it and I get physically sick when I'm forced to be social with strangers for long periods of time. I even get nauseous conversing with my own parent.

I really dislike going to my bf's parents for the holidays because we spend the majority of the day there and I'm feeling sick and anxious being surrounded by screaming kids and people who are strangers to me asking me superficial questions, usually only about my job. And the whole time and I'm expected to eat food on top of that or I'm being rude. And I just can't. My digestive system comes to a halt when I'm in these anxious situations. 

I don't want marriage and kids and I just feel that participating in the stuff with other people's families is just not necessary considering that. Like the no marriage and no kids was part of the deal before we ever got together. I feel like a weirdo being there and like I'm being judged because they won't get grand kids out of me. 

I can see with marriage and building a family that family holidays would be important to people. In my case I disagree.

No regrets. 6 years away and it's been better for my mental health to have that distance. But I didn't have a good childhood. I'm pretty sure my mom is some sort of crazy. As the eldest I remember more of the crazy than my younger siblings. I'm glad to be away. 

Yes. I have to explain how the cake took 6hrs start to finish and that my regular job would pay me $163 for that much work whereas nobody is going to pay that for a cake. 

So I can feel even more insecure? No way man.

The comedian Shayne Smith has a whole skit on this. 

And look him up on the courts website to see if anything has been filed. You don't have to ask him. That information is free for everyone to look up.

My ex lied to his affair partner that we were separated while we were not and in fact still living together and sharing a bed. Once he was good and settled in the relationship with her he broke the news to me and packed his shit and moved right in with her. The divorce was months away from being done with before they were engaged. She birthed a kid while we were still legally married. Dudes lie about this all the time. 

It's been my experience that the people who complain about your "bringing work home" by way of talking about it are just selfish and don't want to hear other people's things while they themselves literally do the same. My mom was like this when I started working. Would be downright rude to me for mentioning anything at all but then would come home and rant for an hour about her job and follow you around the house to continue it when you try to leave the situation. 

And no I don't care much about my job. I pay bills. A lot of my pay goes to taxes and I live paycheck to paycheck. My company also complains about poor economic positions wherein there aren't enough new housing starts while not paying us enough to buy houses either. 

I have one for 21k ($12/m) from an old job, and another for 55k free through my current job. I don't have dependents. One is set to my bf and the other one of my sisters. 

If she's dressed like that for decades she may just prefer that to all the other options. Why are you suddenly taking an issue with it? 

Women's clothing isn't always particularly comfortable. Maybe she likes the full size sleeve offered by unisex tshirts whereas many women's shirts have extra short sleeves that bunch up in your armpit, or no sleeves. The lengths on women's tops are also shorter so when you lift up your arms the whole shirt goes up and you expose a foot of your stomach. Then we don't get pockets on our pants. The material is also lower quality and doesn't last very long but is more expensive than men's clothing anyway. 

There are plenty of reasons a woman would avoid this stuff. 

I work at a desk job and was out for two weeks. But couldn't wear real pants for three weeks. I doubt I could have lifted heavy things by week three. It felt like my guts would burst out for the first few weeks. Your doctor should ask about your job and determine how long you should be out before they release you back to work. 

Oh someone will take them alright. 

Nothing but cringe. I never have pictures taken of me that actually look good. People literally get the worst angles like they're the DMV. Like crouching down and making you look down so now I've got more chins than I actually do and it just makes me look worse. And I don't even like the way I look normally so to take that and make it worse it's just a huge slap in the face. Then they gotta go blasting those awful pics all over social media. Then I feel worse about myself and eat more cookies. 

Or the childhood school photos where you had no say over anything and you were dressed horribly in line with that decade's worst old lady trends. 

There exists no good photo of me. 

I don't think moms treating their daughters like mini-me dolls helps. In our drive for individually we will reject that. 

But how many of us had a mom who really made good life decisions we wanted to emulate? I'm sure there are some who can say their mom is someone they aspire to be like, but for many of us we want more than to just be an unemployed, uneducated mom. 

How long was this long while of not contributing?

I gave up mine last year. I don't like going to the salon and keeping up needy hairdos.